Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

And so I think that bereavement support can be incredibly helpful to connect with others who are going through this same process. And frankly, you know, I don't recommend and some bereavement support groups actually prohibit dating relationships from a grief support group. But the reality is the people that we connect with

are also people potentially that we develop stronger attachment bonds with. That's how community works, right? And so I think bereavement support can be incredibly important. We do know for the 1 out of 10 who develop disordered grieving, who really are not showing any changes over time, even though time is passing,

are also people potentially that we develop stronger attachment bonds with. That's how community works, right? And so I think bereavement support can be incredibly important. We do know for the 1 out of 10 who develop disordered grieving, who really are not showing any changes over time, even though time is passing,

are also people potentially that we develop stronger attachment bonds with. That's how community works, right? And so I think bereavement support can be incredibly important. We do know for the 1 out of 10 who develop disordered grieving, who really are not showing any changes over time, even though time is passing,

those people might need a very specific evidence-based psychotherapy intervention because we know that those psychology interventions can get us back on a normal or typical grieving trajectory.

those people might need a very specific evidence-based psychotherapy intervention because we know that those psychology interventions can get us back on a normal or typical grieving trajectory.

those people might need a very specific evidence-based psychotherapy intervention because we know that those psychology interventions can get us back on a normal or typical grieving trajectory.

I will tell you a story, which is that, so when my mother died, she was in our very tiny hometown in Montana. And in tiny towns, rural places like this, of course, everyone knows what's going on. So the morning after my mom died, at about one in the morning, my best friend and I went downtown to a Mexican restaurant for breakfast.

I will tell you a story, which is that, so when my mother died, she was in our very tiny hometown in Montana. And in tiny towns, rural places like this, of course, everyone knows what's going on. So the morning after my mom died, at about one in the morning, my best friend and I went downtown to a Mexican restaurant for breakfast.

I will tell you a story, which is that, so when my mother died, she was in our very tiny hometown in Montana. And in tiny towns, rural places like this, of course, everyone knows what's going on. So the morning after my mom died, at about one in the morning, my best friend and I went downtown to a Mexican restaurant for breakfast.

And the woman who owned the place came by the table and said, hey, I heard your mom was in the hospital. I'm so sorry. And I said, yeah, she died last night. And she said, oh, mija, what can I get you? Anything. What do you want? And I said, can I have a beer? And she said, of course you can. And I had a beer for breakfast.

And the woman who owned the place came by the table and said, hey, I heard your mom was in the hospital. I'm so sorry. And I said, yeah, she died last night. And she said, oh, mija, what can I get you? Anything. What do you want? And I said, can I have a beer? And she said, of course you can. And I had a beer for breakfast.

And the woman who owned the place came by the table and said, hey, I heard your mom was in the hospital. I'm so sorry. And I said, yeah, she died last night. And she said, oh, mija, what can I get you? Anything. What do you want? And I said, can I have a beer? And she said, of course you can. And I had a beer for breakfast.

I like to think of us as needing a big toolkit of strategies to deal with waves of grief. And that was the right tool in the toolkit at that moment. Now, if I had a beer for breakfast every day for the rest of my life, probably not so good for my liver, right? And potentially for my job retention. But in that moment, it was the right tool. Do you see what I mean?

I like to think of us as needing a big toolkit of strategies to deal with waves of grief. And that was the right tool in the toolkit at that moment. Now, if I had a beer for breakfast every day for the rest of my life, probably not so good for my liver, right? And potentially for my job retention. But in that moment, it was the right tool. Do you see what I mean?

I like to think of us as needing a big toolkit of strategies to deal with waves of grief. And that was the right tool in the toolkit at that moment. Now, if I had a beer for breakfast every day for the rest of my life, probably not so good for my liver, right? And potentially for my job retention. But in that moment, it was the right tool. Do you see what I mean?

So it was also the right tool that I was sitting with my best friend, right? And that inhibition allowed me to cry right there in the middle of the restaurant, right? I think we have always found ways to interact with the body. that may not make sense to us at some level, but probably when they are cultural ways, have come about for reasons.

So it was also the right tool that I was sitting with my best friend, right? And that inhibition allowed me to cry right there in the middle of the restaurant, right? I think we have always found ways to interact with the body. that may not make sense to us at some level, but probably when they are cultural ways, have come about for reasons.

So it was also the right tool that I was sitting with my best friend, right? And that inhibition allowed me to cry right there in the middle of the restaurant, right? I think we have always found ways to interact with the body. that may not make sense to us at some level, but probably when they are cultural ways, have come about for reasons.

I don't have evidence for the things you were just saying, but the idea that it can bring people together who are feeling a little less inhibited so that they can talk about emotions and difficulties, the fact that it brings people together just to watch each other is vital. The fact that it impacts our cardiovascular system, is important. And here's what I would say about this.