Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

And so that way of changing the internal relationship, remembering that your internal relationship can evolve with them and And similarly, if they were a less than loved one, which happens as well, it's okay to say, you know what? This chapter of my life is over. That was a tough chapter. And I'm going to wrap that up and put that in a box, and it's done now.

And so that way of changing the internal relationship, remembering that your internal relationship can evolve with them and And similarly, if they were a less than loved one, which happens as well, it's okay to say, you know what? This chapter of my life is over. That was a tough chapter. And I'm going to wrap that up and put that in a box, and it's done now.

And maybe it will come back at another time, and I'll deal with that relationship more later. But for right now, it's okay to put that aside. So I think permission is such a great word. Think to yourself, who is judging me for going on vacation? Who is judging me for falling in love? Is it me? Is it in the internal relationship? Is it my neighbor, my pastor?

And maybe it will come back at another time, and I'll deal with that relationship more later. But for right now, it's okay to put that aside. So I think permission is such a great word. Think to yourself, who is judging me for going on vacation? Who is judging me for falling in love? Is it me? Is it in the internal relationship? Is it my neighbor, my pastor?

And maybe it will come back at another time, and I'll deal with that relationship more later. But for right now, it's okay to put that aside. So I think permission is such a great word. Think to yourself, who is judging me for going on vacation? Who is judging me for falling in love? Is it me? Is it in the internal relationship? Is it my neighbor, my pastor?

Figure out who's judging you and then how do you get permission?

Figure out who's judging you and then how do you get permission?

Figure out who's judging you and then how do you get permission?

Yeah. I will tell you, Andrew, many people, you know, I teach a psychology of death and loss class at the University of Arizona. And my students will say to me, you are way too happy to be teaching this class. And I say to them, that's not a mistake. That's not incidental. It is because every single day I'm thinking about death and dying. I'm thinking about grief and loss.

Yeah. I will tell you, Andrew, many people, you know, I teach a psychology of death and loss class at the University of Arizona. And my students will say to me, you are way too happy to be teaching this class. And I say to them, that's not a mistake. That's not incidental. It is because every single day I'm thinking about death and dying. I'm thinking about grief and loss.

Yeah. I will tell you, Andrew, many people, you know, I teach a psychology of death and loss class at the University of Arizona. And my students will say to me, you are way too happy to be teaching this class. And I say to them, that's not a mistake. That's not incidental. It is because every single day I'm thinking about death and dying. I'm thinking about grief and loss.

And so when they come to me and they got a B plus instead of an A minus, I'm sort of like, you know, big picture, right? Not the end of the world. And there's a way in which... I can say grieving is a form of learning, but I don't know what you're going to learn from this loss experience.

And so when they come to me and they got a B plus instead of an A minus, I'm sort of like, you know, big picture, right? Not the end of the world. And there's a way in which... I can say grieving is a form of learning, but I don't know what you're going to learn from this loss experience.

And so when they come to me and they got a B plus instead of an A minus, I'm sort of like, you know, big picture, right? Not the end of the world. And there's a way in which... I can say grieving is a form of learning, but I don't know what you're going to learn from this loss experience.

But what I hope is that you learn good lessons, lessons like, wow, I am tougher than I thought I was, or wow, when I really need someone, people step up, or wow, that person utterly shaped my view of the world, and I am so grateful. Other people learn, wow, the world is an unsafe place or I can't tell anyone how I really feel. These are very different lessons that some people learn.

But what I hope is that you learn good lessons, lessons like, wow, I am tougher than I thought I was, or wow, when I really need someone, people step up, or wow, that person utterly shaped my view of the world, and I am so grateful. Other people learn, wow, the world is an unsafe place or I can't tell anyone how I really feel. These are very different lessons that some people learn.

But what I hope is that you learn good lessons, lessons like, wow, I am tougher than I thought I was, or wow, when I really need someone, people step up, or wow, that person utterly shaped my view of the world, and I am so grateful. Other people learn, wow, the world is an unsafe place or I can't tell anyone how I really feel. These are very different lessons that some people learn.

And my hope is that no one grieves alone because the risk of them thinking it's my fault is is so bad for society that people walk around believing that, that we need to support others so that we come out learning better lessons about what it means that death is a part of life.

And my hope is that no one grieves alone because the risk of them thinking it's my fault is is so bad for society that people walk around believing that, that we need to support others so that we come out learning better lessons about what it means that death is a part of life.

And my hope is that no one grieves alone because the risk of them thinking it's my fault is is so bad for society that people walk around believing that, that we need to support others so that we come out learning better lessons about what it means that death is a part of life.