Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

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Yeah. I can say up front that I am not an expert in suicide, and there is so much that is known scientifically about the mental health surrounding suicide and suicide attempts and so forth. But I think about it this way. I think we can separate out a conversation that I'm not expert in that says suicide You know, suicide is a permanent solution to a probably temporary problem.

Yeah. I can say up front that I am not an expert in suicide, and there is so much that is known scientifically about the mental health surrounding suicide and suicide attempts and so forth. But I think about it this way. I think we can separate out a conversation that I'm not expert in that says suicide You know, suicide is a permanent solution to a probably temporary problem.

Yeah. I can say up front that I am not an expert in suicide, and there is so much that is known scientifically about the mental health surrounding suicide and suicide attempts and so forth. But I think about it this way. I think we can separate out a conversation that I'm not expert in that says suicide You know, suicide is a permanent solution to a probably temporary problem.

And there are lots of reasons, mental health care and so forth, that suicide may happen. And it is a tragedy. that this permanent solution seems the only one given what might be a temporary situation. But I can put all of that a little bit on a shelf, honestly, and still tackle something that I think you're getting at, which is what about the person who's grieving after a suicide?

And there are lots of reasons, mental health care and so forth, that suicide may happen. And it is a tragedy. that this permanent solution seems the only one given what might be a temporary situation. But I can put all of that a little bit on a shelf, honestly, and still tackle something that I think you're getting at, which is what about the person who's grieving after a suicide?

And there are lots of reasons, mental health care and so forth, that suicide may happen. And it is a tragedy. that this permanent solution seems the only one given what might be a temporary situation. But I can put all of that a little bit on a shelf, honestly, and still tackle something that I think you're getting at, which is what about the person who's grieving after a suicide?

And I think about that in this way because we do know that grief after a sudden death, grief after a violent death, grief after an unexpected death, and all of those often describe a suicide, is more challenging. It is more difficult to adapt. It is more difficult to restore a meaningful life.

And I think about that in this way because we do know that grief after a sudden death, grief after a violent death, grief after an unexpected death, and all of those often describe a suicide, is more challenging. It is more difficult to adapt. It is more difficult to restore a meaningful life.

And I think about that in this way because we do know that grief after a sudden death, grief after a violent death, grief after an unexpected death, and all of those often describe a suicide, is more challenging. It is more difficult to adapt. It is more difficult to restore a meaningful life.

A friend of mine who used to come to the class that I teach whose son died by suicide helped me really see the insight into the grieving process there, though. And it's something that actually probably applies even more broadly, but is very common in the thought patterns of people who are grieving someone who died by suicide. And that is what he called the would have, could have, should have.

A friend of mine who used to come to the class that I teach whose son died by suicide helped me really see the insight into the grieving process there, though. And it's something that actually probably applies even more broadly, but is very common in the thought patterns of people who are grieving someone who died by suicide. And that is what he called the would have, could have, should have.

A friend of mine who used to come to the class that I teach whose son died by suicide helped me really see the insight into the grieving process there, though. And it's something that actually probably applies even more broadly, but is very common in the thought patterns of people who are grieving someone who died by suicide. And that is what he called the would have, could have, should have.

So this is, if only I would have picked up the phone. If only I could have gotten them to the hospital sooner. The doctor should have known to check for. And the thing is that the brain, because it is a wonder, the brain can come up with an infinite number of stories. An infinite number of reasons why this loss is your fault.

So this is, if only I would have picked up the phone. If only I could have gotten them to the hospital sooner. The doctor should have known to check for. And the thing is that the brain, because it is a wonder, the brain can come up with an infinite number of stories. An infinite number of reasons why this loss is your fault.