Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

With the body right there. I've been to a wake.

With the body right there. I've been to a wake.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

That's right. With the name Mary Frances O'Connor, it will not surprise you to know that I grew up in a big Irish Catholic family. And we used to say in the summers we saw our cousins for weddings and in the winter we saw our cousins for funerals. And we had these wakes. I saw numerous births. deceased bodies as a child of my family members while running around playing tag with my cousins.

That's right. With the name Mary Frances O'Connor, it will not surprise you to know that I grew up in a big Irish Catholic family. And we used to say in the summers we saw our cousins for weddings and in the winter we saw our cousins for funerals. And we had these wakes. I saw numerous births. deceased bodies as a child of my family members while running around playing tag with my cousins.

That's right. With the name Mary Frances O'Connor, it will not surprise you to know that I grew up in a big Irish Catholic family. And we used to say in the summers we saw our cousins for weddings and in the winter we saw our cousins for funerals. And we had these wakes. I saw numerous births. deceased bodies as a child of my family members while running around playing tag with my cousins.

And what that does is it is a cultural way to say... Grief happens. Death happens. This is what it looks like. And you can respond in a lot of different ways. Because I will tell you, while there is drinking and playing tag, there is also a lot of crying and a lot of leaning on shoulders. It gives you some form of... organization for how to understand the strong feelings that you're having.

And what that does is it is a cultural way to say... Grief happens. Death happens. This is what it looks like. And you can respond in a lot of different ways. Because I will tell you, while there is drinking and playing tag, there is also a lot of crying and a lot of leaning on shoulders. It gives you some form of... organization for how to understand the strong feelings that you're having.

And what that does is it is a cultural way to say... Grief happens. Death happens. This is what it looks like. And you can respond in a lot of different ways. Because I will tell you, while there is drinking and playing tag, there is also a lot of crying and a lot of leaning on shoulders. It gives you some form of... organization for how to understand the strong feelings that you're having.

But in a different culture, they'll hire funeral singers. so that there can be singing while everyone is weeping, right? So my point here is that we stand in an unusual moment in history and culture where we don't mostly adhere to some system for how to handle death and grief.

But in a different culture, they'll hire funeral singers. so that there can be singing while everyone is weeping, right? So my point here is that we stand in an unusual moment in history and culture where we don't mostly adhere to some system for how to handle death and grief.

But in a different culture, they'll hire funeral singers. so that there can be singing while everyone is weeping, right? So my point here is that we stand in an unusual moment in history and culture where we don't mostly adhere to some system for how to handle death and grief.

And what it means is people are left to sort of manage those intense emotions without a lot of modeling, without a lot of… philosophical understanding of what's going on and disconnected often from their families of origin because those don't make sense to us right now.

And what it means is people are left to sort of manage those intense emotions without a lot of modeling, without a lot of… philosophical understanding of what's going on and disconnected often from their families of origin because those don't make sense to us right now.

And what it means is people are left to sort of manage those intense emotions without a lot of modeling, without a lot of… philosophical understanding of what's going on and disconnected often from their families of origin because those don't make sense to us right now.

I'm not suggesting that we go back to a time when, you know, Catholicism was the way or Judaism was the only way or, you know, I'm not suggesting that. What I'm suggesting is anyone who has attachment. So this can be prairie voles, little rodents, you know, that mate for life. This can be infants. This can be good functioning human adults like you and me.

I'm not suggesting that we go back to a time when, you know, Catholicism was the way or Judaism was the only way or, you know, I'm not suggesting that. What I'm suggesting is anyone who has attachment. So this can be prairie voles, little rodents, you know, that mate for life. This can be infants. This can be good functioning human adults like you and me.

I'm not suggesting that we go back to a time when, you know, Catholicism was the way or Judaism was the only way or, you know, I'm not suggesting that. What I'm suggesting is anyone who has attachment. So this can be prairie voles, little rodents, you know, that mate for life. This can be infants. This can be good functioning human adults like you and me.