Dr. Matt May

and see what occurs in your mind. And so you'll probably realize, oh, I'm suddenly thinking about a blue-eyed tiger. And so the first step is to carefully identify your agenda. If you're trying to eliminate the thought from your brain, you'll run into trouble. But if you're trying to develop a sense of comfort with the contents

and see what occurs in your mind. And so you'll probably realize, oh, I'm suddenly thinking about a blue-eyed tiger. And so the first step is to carefully identify your agenda. If you're trying to eliminate the thought from your brain, you'll run into trouble. But if you're trying to develop a sense of comfort with the contents

of your consciousness, like whatever thoughts, emotions, et cetera, come up, then you've got a chance at a cure of not being troubled by those thoughts and feelings.

of your consciousness, like whatever thoughts, emotions, et cetera, come up, then you've got a chance at a cure of not being troubled by those thoughts and feelings.

Love that answer, Rhonda. I agree wholeheartedly.

Love that answer, Rhonda. I agree wholeheartedly.

Right, yeah. So one thing is that he's not only got intrusive thoughts, but he's also got a should statement that's creating suffering when he has those thoughts. So there would be a number of different ways to help with a should statement. Sure.

Right, yeah. So one thing is that he's not only got intrusive thoughts, but he's also got a should statement that's creating suffering when he has those thoughts. So there would be a number of different ways to help with a should statement. Sure.

Oh, I shouldn't be having these thoughts anymore. I shouldn't have such intrusive, upsetting thoughts going through my mind.

Oh, I shouldn't be having these thoughts anymore. I shouldn't have such intrusive, upsetting thoughts going through my mind.

Well, he wants to protect his family. His priorities and values are about making sure that nothing happens to his wife and nothing happens to his son. And his thoughts are there to make sure he's on guard and keeping them safe and doing everything in his power to protect them.

Well, he wants to protect his family. His priorities and values are about making sure that nothing happens to his wife and nothing happens to his son. And his thoughts are there to make sure he's on guard and keeping them safe and doing everything in his power to protect them.

That's always a good one to try when there's an element of OCD, the hidden emotion.

That's always a good one to try when there's an element of OCD, the hidden emotion.

Nice. That would be fun. Could I share a brief vignette of an experience that I had about 19 years ago? Yeah, that would be awesome. So I had a dear friend who had his first son was born And one of the things he experienced that he shared with me that was very disturbing to him, his job was to take the boy from downstairs upstairs at the end of the day and to tuck him in.

Nice. That would be fun. Could I share a brief vignette of an experience that I had about 19 years ago? Yeah, that would be awesome. So I had a dear friend who had his first son was born And one of the things he experienced that he shared with me that was very disturbing to him, his job was to take the boy from downstairs upstairs at the end of the day and to tuck him in.

But every time he was climbing the steps, he would have this intrusive and very disturbing thought of dropping his son over the edge of the balcony. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And he began to think that this meant something terrible about him. that maybe he is a bad father or is a psychopath or something like that.

But every time he was climbing the steps, he would have this intrusive and very disturbing thought of dropping his son over the edge of the balcony. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And he began to think that this meant something terrible about him. that maybe he is a bad father or is a psychopath or something like that.

And when I suggested to him that sometimes our brain is just trying to warn us about things and to make sure we're being safe and careful, and he's probably just trying to be especially careful not to drop his son in that moment because he loves his son so much and cares about his son so much. that all of his symptoms went away. He was no longer disturbed.

And when I suggested to him that sometimes our brain is just trying to warn us about things and to make sure we're being safe and careful, and he's probably just trying to be especially careful not to drop his son in that moment because he loves his son so much and cares about his son so much. that all of his symptoms went away. He was no longer disturbed.