Dr. Matt May

He realized he should be thinking about that, that his brain is making an effort to protect his baby.

He realized he should be thinking about that, that his brain is making an effort to protect his baby.

Exactly. And then the images actually did kind of go away because he was not defending against them. He welcomed them and saw what they were trying to accomplish there for him.

Exactly. And then the images actually did kind of go away because he was not defending against them. He welcomed them and saw what they were trying to accomplish there for him.

I'm appreciating Rodolfo for his question. Yeah, thank you, Rodolfo. I loved your answer, David.

I'm appreciating Rodolfo for his question. Yeah, thank you, Rodolfo. I loved your answer, David.

Okay. What do you think, Matt? If it's just a simple survey question, then my answer is it's absolutely fine to enjoy being on your own and doing your own thing.

Okay. What do you think, Matt? If it's just a simple survey question, then my answer is it's absolutely fine to enjoy being on your own and doing your own thing.

I think if other people – we can demonstrate the feared fantasy and prove that if other people are judging us for that, that we don't need to be bothered by their judgment, that the feared critic of our nightmares has no teeth and can't hurt us. Yeah. I think the one caveat I would have is if she has her own personal reason for not wanting to spend as much time on her own.

I think if other people – we can demonstrate the feared fantasy and prove that if other people are judging us for that, that we don't need to be bothered by their judgment, that the feared critic of our nightmares has no teeth and can't hurt us. Yeah. I think the one caveat I would have is if she has her own personal reason for not wanting to spend as much time on her own.

So, for example, if it's a goal for her to have a family, but she's not going out to meet anyone or date, then that could be a reason that she might want to be more social or do more dating or something like that. But if it's only the concern that she's letting other people down, and they're judging her, then I think we get back to this probable feeling of hidden anger.

So, for example, if it's a goal for her to have a family, but she's not going out to meet anyone or date, then that could be a reason that she might want to be more social or do more dating or something like that. But if it's only the concern that she's letting other people down, and they're judging her, then I think we get back to this probable feeling of hidden anger.

Like she probably feels a little bit annoyed that she's not allowed to make her own decision and just choose to be on her own. And she could do some methods like survey technique. And she could ask people, is it annoying to you that I kind of prefer my own personal time? As far as I'm concerned, my response would be no. Have the time of your life and enjoy being alone.

Like she probably feels a little bit annoyed that she's not allowed to make her own decision and just choose to be on her own. And she could do some methods like survey technique. And she could ask people, is it annoying to you that I kind of prefer my own personal time? As far as I'm concerned, my response would be no. Have the time of your life and enjoy being alone.

And if you wanted to spend time together, that'd be great too.

And if you wanted to spend time together, that'd be great too.

Right on. The water's warm. Jump on in.

Right on. The water's warm. Jump on in.

I'm sadly allergic to cats. I love cats, and they love me. But, yeah, I tend to... get all puffy in the face and runny nose, et cetera.

I'm sadly allergic to cats. I love cats, and they love me. But, yeah, I tend to... get all puffy in the face and runny nose, et cetera.