Dr. Matt May

Rhonda, I also want to say that I'm extremely powerful and judging you, but I'm also exquisitely sensitive and being hurt by you. And you should feel I'm very weak, and you should feel... bad about hurting me and also scared about my, from my judgment, my powerful.

Rhonda, I also want to say that I'm extremely powerful and judging you, but I'm also exquisitely sensitive and being hurt by you. And you should feel I'm very weak, and you should feel... bad about hurting me and also scared about my, from my judgment, my powerful.

I agree that I think the most important part of the work is motivational thinking. is to understand how is this thought, this structure of thinking beneficial to you? What would be the problem of letting go of the shoulds? How is it functioning? And what does it say that's great about your value system? And if that's not addressed, if that

I agree that I think the most important part of the work is motivational thinking. is to understand how is this thought, this structure of thinking beneficial to you? What would be the problem of letting go of the shoulds? How is it functioning? And what does it say that's great about your value system? And if that's not addressed, if that

resistance is still in place, none of the methods will be that effective. If he overcomes that resistance and he decides, I want to let go of those shoulds and I have permission to do that, then we'd have a lot of cool techniques like the semantic technique or the Socratic technique or shades of gray or reattribution, et cetera, et cetera.

resistance is still in place, none of the methods will be that effective. If he overcomes that resistance and he decides, I want to let go of those shoulds and I have permission to do that, then we'd have a lot of cool techniques like the semantic technique or the Socratic technique or shades of gray or reattribution, et cetera, et cetera.

But the first question I have is, why would he let go of his shoulds? It seemed like they're highly... motivational and getting him to live up to his standards. And I can see a lot of other good reasons to shoot himself. And I'm not convinced yet that I'm not convinced yet that he should stop shooting himself.

But the first question I have is, why would he let go of his shoulds? It seemed like they're highly... motivational and getting him to live up to his standards. And I can see a lot of other good reasons to shoot himself. And I'm not convinced yet that I'm not convinced yet that he should stop shooting himself.

I often like having plans on a Saturday. I don't have any plans this Saturday, and that's actually okay with me. Sometimes I think, gosh, I'd prefer to have some plans. Maybe I could do something and make some plans. That's exciting to me.

I often like having plans on a Saturday. I don't have any plans this Saturday, and that's actually okay with me. Sometimes I think, gosh, I'd prefer to have some plans. Maybe I could do something and make some plans. That's exciting to me.

Oh, I'd love to avoid that. That'd be great. I'd love to be faster, more efficient, make fewer errors. Maybe you've got some pointers for me on how I could do better in that way.

Oh, I'd love to avoid that. That'd be great. I'd love to be faster, more efficient, make fewer errors. Maybe you've got some pointers for me on how I could do better in that way.

Well, if I'm just condemned to slowness and inadequacy, I'll just accept that then. That's okay with me. I guess I would prefer to be better, but you're saying I couldn't be better.

Well, if I'm just condemned to slowness and inadequacy, I'll just accept that then. That's okay with me. I guess I would prefer to be better, but you're saying I couldn't be better.

Oh, gosh, I just plead guilty and admire them for their awesomeness. They're doing such great work, and oh, man, I goofed up. I wish I hadn't messed up in that way, but they did such a great job. Gosh, I feel so fortunate to be a part of such a brilliant team.

Oh, gosh, I just plead guilty and admire them for their awesomeness. They're doing such great work, and oh, man, I goofed up. I wish I hadn't messed up in that way, but they did such a great job. Gosh, I feel so fortunate to be a part of such a brilliant team.

Thank you for the role play too, David.

Thank you for the role play too, David.

Yeah, well, let's say you could eliminate shoulds from your mind. Would there be any danger to doing so? Because a lot of people imagine some slippery slope that if I'm not constantly monitoring and shoulding myself... That I'll just become complacent and lazy, never get anything done. That I need my shoulds to motivate me and keep me on track. And that can be a powerful form of resistance.

Yeah, well, let's say you could eliminate shoulds from your mind. Would there be any danger to doing so? Because a lot of people imagine some slippery slope that if I'm not constantly monitoring and shoulding myself... That I'll just become complacent and lazy, never get anything done. That I need my shoulds to motivate me and keep me on track. And that can be a powerful form of resistance.