Dr. Matt May

That if someone is there and they're thinking, gosh, yeah, that's just true. I have to should myself or I'm going to be in trouble. Then I wouldn't go on to any methods anymore. there. I would just admire their sense of responsibility and they want to be productive and contribute to society. And that's awesome. So why would we change this? This is a good thing that's working for them. Right.

That if someone is there and they're thinking, gosh, yeah, that's just true. I have to should myself or I'm going to be in trouble. Then I wouldn't go on to any methods anymore. there. I would just admire their sense of responsibility and they want to be productive and contribute to society. And that's awesome. So why would we change this? This is a good thing that's working for them. Right.

I agree wholeheartedly. I think... The metaphor sometimes I've used is that when we're working on the thoughts, if we just work on the thoughts, if all we do is cognitive therapy. And we're not looking at the motivation, the values, the reasons to keep the thoughts. It's sort of like we're trying to defeat this plant.

I agree wholeheartedly. I think... The metaphor sometimes I've used is that when we're working on the thoughts, if we just work on the thoughts, if all we do is cognitive therapy. And we're not looking at the motivation, the values, the reasons to keep the thoughts. It's sort of like we're trying to defeat this plant.

But if we go to the roots, if we address the root of the problem, suddenly the whole plant changes and transforms. And it's easy. It's not a constant hacking away at this thing that keeps regrowing. It's an actual fundamental, deeper type of change and cure that's possible.

But if we go to the roots, if we address the root of the problem, suddenly the whole plant changes and transforms. And it's easy. It's not a constant hacking away at this thing that keeps regrowing. It's an actual fundamental, deeper type of change and cure that's possible.

Yeah.

Yeah.

One thing I've seen be quite effective that's also an agenda setting for should statements is a version of the magic dial question, which is something like, how much longer should I continue to should myself? Yeah. Should I be shooting myself at all times from the moment I wake up in the morning? Should I be doing that as intensely as possible?

One thing I've seen be quite effective that's also an agenda setting for should statements is a version of the magic dial question, which is something like, how much longer should I continue to should myself? Yeah. Should I be shooting myself at all times from the moment I wake up in the morning? Should I be doing that as intensely as possible?

Should I maximize my suffering at all times for the rest of my life in order to get the best results here?

Should I maximize my suffering at all times for the rest of my life in order to get the best results here?

David, I think you're not using enough should statements or self-criticism.

David, I think you're not using enough should statements or self-criticism.

I think that would be an appropriate plan.

I think that would be an appropriate plan.

Well, that's very rebellious of you and bad of you.

Well, that's very rebellious of you and bad of you.

OK, well, it's rubbing off. I think it's working.

OK, well, it's rubbing off. I think it's working.