Dr. Matt May

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Yeah, I think if I were going into solitary confinement, I would be feeling extremely grateful to have the skills and methods and tools that are in team therapy for that experience. I think there's a little bit of a paradox if we consider that solitary confinement is very similar as a situation to a silent meditation retreat.

Yeah, I think if I were going into solitary confinement, I would be feeling extremely grateful to have the skills and methods and tools that are in team therapy for that experience. I think there's a little bit of a paradox if we consider that solitary confinement is very similar as a situation to a silent meditation retreat.

that people would pay a lot of money to go to experience something really wonderful in their life. And I think that could be kind of confusing until we look at the cognitive model that what would shape your experience in solitary confinement or in a silent meditation is exclusively what you're thinking in those situations.

that people would pay a lot of money to go to experience something really wonderful in their life. And I think that could be kind of confusing until we look at the cognitive model that what would shape your experience in solitary confinement or in a silent meditation is exclusively what you're thinking in those situations.

And so to have the skills to address your negative thoughts as they're coming up would be of tremendous value. Yeah.

And so to have the skills to address your negative thoughts as they're coming up would be of tremendous value. Yeah.

Yeah, my concern about the prison system is it's probably using that punishment as a deterrent for bad behavior. So they're not likely to want it to be a pleasant experience for prisoners. And I think we could debate whether that's an appropriate way to treat anyone is to lock them up and ignore them. I'm skeptical of that being a way of reforming behavior.

Yeah, my concern about the prison system is it's probably using that punishment as a deterrent for bad behavior. So they're not likely to want it to be a pleasant experience for prisoners. And I think we could debate whether that's an appropriate way to treat anyone is to lock them up and ignore them. I'm skeptical of that being a way of reforming behavior.

I don't think that people come out of that experience highly motivated to connect with others and feeling better about society and wanting to play by the rules. I think they probably come out more bitter or more depressed, more resentful.

I don't think that people come out of that experience highly motivated to connect with others and feeling better about society and wanting to play by the rules. I think they probably come out more bitter or more depressed, more resentful.

Another one that I saw was discounting the positive or just focusing on the negative, focusing on errors or times when she's upset rather than when she's being patient and loving and kind.

Another one that I saw was discounting the positive or just focusing on the negative, focusing on errors or times when she's upset rather than when she's being patient and loving and kind.

There's almost always all or nothing thinking hidden somewhere in a negative thought. And perhaps in this case, parenthetically, she's thinking, you know, I'm never a good enough mom or I'm always a bad mom. Yeah. I'm never good enough on some scale of awesome momness. Yeah.

There's almost always all or nothing thinking hidden somewhere in a negative thought. And perhaps in this case, parenthetically, she's thinking, you know, I'm never a good enough mom or I'm always a bad mom. Yeah. I'm never good enough on some scale of awesome momness. Yeah.

Yeah, I've, I've been the victim of many should statements in my own mind. And it all, it often seems like it's the, right thing to do, that I should be beating up on myself or punishing myself if I've failed at something that's really important to me. So my guess is that her value system is around being a wonderful mom.

Yeah, I've, I've been the victim of many should statements in my own mind. And it all, it often seems like it's the, right thing to do, that I should be beating up on myself or punishing myself if I've failed at something that's really important to me. So my guess is that her value system is around being a wonderful mom.

And if she makes some error around that, she beats up on herself because at some level she believes she deserves it. She hasn't earned the right to feel good if she's not performing at a really high level as a mom.

And if she makes some error around that, she beats up on herself because at some level she believes she deserves it. She hasn't earned the right to feel good if she's not performing at a really high level as a mom.