Dr. Micaela

And so you are quite literally combating a lifetime of learning that you need to be different, change yourself, try something new, just work harder.

Yeah.

Be more caring.

Obviously, you're just not a thoughtful person if you have to interrupt or if you have to work so hard to think about what you're going to say before you say it so that you say it right and don't hurt people's feelings, blah, blah, blah.

Right.

And so you are doing to learn how to truly love yourself and your weaknesses.

You have to undo essentially that.

a lifetime of learning while the whole time still getting messages from your environment that, yeah, you, you really do need to kind of like fit in.

You need to try harder, do better, blah, blah, et cetera, et cetera.

Um, and so it's not an easy journey.

Um,

And when you can, think about all the energy that you devote to fitting in or to not being yourself or to not talk about dinosaurs in every conversation that you have.

If you just embrace like, yeah, I'm the dinosaur person.

love it or leave it.

It's fine.

Um, then all of a sudden the people who aren't going to like you, that's fine.

Um, they're going to fade out of your life or they're going to avoid you, or maybe they're even going to be like, Oh my God, dinosaurs again.

And you can be like, yep, dinos.

That's right.

Um, and then it, it allows you to just be so much happier.