Dr. Michael Gervais

So emotions are the physical things we feel, and feelings are the private things that happen.

So feelings are private to you.

They're private to me.

I have to ask you, like I noticed that your breathing changed or your heart started pounding or your hands were shaking.

What's happening?

And then you would go to say, I'm really scared or I'm really excited.

Physiologically, they might look the same, but psychologically, the feelings are so private.

Emotions are public.

We need to work with both the

observable public parts, the emotions, and the private piece, which is our feelings.

It depends on a couple of variables.

I've invested a lot of time under tension to work well with emotions.

So my emotions are available to me and I have the ability to toggle them up, toggle them down.

For the most part, I get caught in the storm of emotions as well.

But so one is I just want to level set that, that I am aware because of how much time I've practiced them.

For the most part, I'm not walking on water, you know, like...

My wife reminds me of that all the time.

There's none of that that I would ever pretend.

My 17-year-old son reminds me of that more than you would imagine as well.

There's an awareness.