Dr. Michelle Rozen
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first heard Dec 2024
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And I have a tool for that, but it's called a zero to ten rule. So no matter what your goal are, make sure that it's a ten for you, which means something that you really feel very strongly about. Because if it's not a ten for you, you're not going to care enough to make the effort.
Hi, Mike. I'm so glad to be here.
People struggle with setting goals because they're not doing it the right way. And nobody ever teaches you, Mike, how to do it. So what they do is, you know, we're always told, oh, you should have a list of goals. And that's considered to be like advanced. You just don't have them in your head. You have a list.
But what actually happens is that setting a goal and automating that new behavior in the human brain It's not easy. It's a process. And so when people set too many goals, the brain gets overwhelmed and the brain says, I don't know how to do all these new things at once. I mean, you started the year, you have like these 10 things that you want to change. And so people get overwhelmed.
They drop the whole thing.
On January 2023, I surveyed, after being so many years in the space and the field of change, I surveyed 1,000 people all over the US. And all of them, like so many of us, said, oh, yeah, I'm going to do all these amazing things. And I'm going to lose the weight. I'm going to save more money. I'll be more present with my team. I'm going to do better with my business.
I'll spend more time with my kids, whatever their goal was. And what I found out was that no matter what category, no matter what it is that those people wanted to do, 94% of the people surveyed dropped their goals within the first 60 days.
One of the things that the 6%ers do differently is they pick one goal at the time for 30 days and do only that. So rather than trying to do this and this and this and that, overwhelm your brain, drop the whole thing. They say, okay, for the next 30 days, I'm going to go to the gym every day at six o'clock. Repeat, repeat, repeat for 30 days. It automates that new behavior in the brain.
Then they pick another goal. Then they pick another. The domino effect of rather than overwhelming yourself with a lot of things, getting overwhelmed, drop the whole thing. How do you get really specific and granular and nail down those new habits one at a time every 30 days?
So think about it this way, Mike. Let's say that the beginning of the year you had, I'm just going to come up with a random number. You had 12 goals for yourself. And let's say, because you're talking about what happens if I drop the ball, which happens to so many people, because you know what? We're human. We're not machines. We're not robots. Life gets in the way.
And it can be that you couldn't go to the gym or it could be that you wanted to save this much money every month and you had this whole system or every week. And then a big expense came, something. Life happens. And so what the six percenters do differently is they say, OK, instead of saying, OK, I have 12 goals, get overwhelmed, drop the whole thing. Let's say that they have 12 goals.
They kill them one at the time, nail them one at the time. And let's say that in the course of the year, Mike, you dropped your goal. You dropped the ball on... Four things. You were still able to automate eight different new healthy behaviors in the course of the year. That's a huge amount of change. Now think about year two. Now think about year three. That's a transformation.
So the system is very simple. The system says, hey, you dropped the ball on something that you wanted to do. Don't beat yourself up. Don't be hard on yourself. All you need to do is go back to the beginning line.
Yeah. Yeah. I love how you bring that up, Mike, because, you know, sometimes the things that frustrate us, when people talk about goals, they think, oh, big, you know, I'm going to change the world. No, no, no. Most of people have goals that start from very everyday things, you know, and that's the right place to start. You start with the small things and you start building those new habits.
You start practicing what the six percenters do differently. And so back to the point that you're bringing up, it's such a good point because, you know, One of the things that the six percenters do differently is that instead of relying on their willpower, which is what you're doing, you're relying on your willpower to remember to put the keys away when you come into the house.
But you get distracted and there are other things that are happening. So rather than relying on their willpower, they manipulate their environment. That means that either you set a reminder on your phone or you move where that jar is so that it reminds you. Or you put a piece of paper on the floor so that as soon as you come in, there's a piece of paper, a note that says, put the keys in the jar.
Do you see what I'm saying? So...
you know we spend a lot of energy there's a tendency to spend a lot of energy on relying on our willpower oh i'm not gonna you know eat late at night or i'm not gonna forget to drink water or i you know or i won't forget to put my keys away but willpower is very flimsy you know if you're tired hungry you had a bad day it's just not there anymore so instead of relying on their willpower the six percenters manipulate their environment i bet if you had a sign on the floor when you open the door or on the wall in front of you that said
Put keys away in the jar. You did that for 30 days. After 30 days, it's automated in your brain. The door opens. You're like, oh, yeah, I got to put the keys in the jar. I've done that before. I have that neural pathway in my brain.
Everybody wants to be healthier. People want to have better relationships. There's a lot of pain around loneliness and relationships. I noticed that in the research. And money. People want to have more money, do better financially. So at the end of the day, everybody wants to live better.
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