Dr. Mindy Weinstein

No.

So, okay.

I actually do have a chapter that's kind of about that, but that is something, and I'm glad you just brought that up because I actually included an interview and he's, he writes for a doctor.

And so he, he's the attraction doctor.

Like that's what he's termed as, but that was something that we talked about because I also had the same feeling as you of like, okay, don't just like play hard to get just for the sake of it.

Like then you're going to get people that you wouldn't really either wanted to work with or date, you know, cause that's not right.

And so one of the things that him and I were talking about, and he brought up, he said, you know, I tell my people that I'm consulting about dating that, okay, you can be hard to get in a way that you value yourself.

You know yourself, you value yourself.

You don't have to be readily available to everybody.

you don't need to be that.

And so that is still the idea of playing hard to get, but not in a weird manipulative way.

But like you value yourself, you know what you're worth, you know who you are, you're genuine.

And you know what, you can be just a selective too.

And so that's really when he said that, I'm like, that's really interesting.

And I've seen that play out with some even consultants that will do that.

And they're not trying to be manipulative, but they end up playing hard to get without realizing it.

If you're a consultant, you only have so much time because time

is finite like you only have so much and so it's automatically scarce and you can only work with so many people at a time and so i know consultants who during a meeting with a prospect you know as they're talking just being honest and saying you know i really am interested in this project you know i only work with a certain amount of people at a time again you're being honest

And in those situations, I've heard stories of it flipping to the prospect being like, oh, well, here's why you really like working with us, you know?

And again, it's not, it's plain hard to get, but not in a way that's like, you're just valuing yourself and just saying like, I know my value.