Dr. Nicole LePera

I know we all share emotional abandonment wounds connected again to our relationship with my mom. What I know on the other side of it is how much stronger and authentic our relationships have become now that I walked through that discomfort and they very much were open to reconnecting with me as a lot of our relationships will be.

I know we all share emotional abandonment wounds connected again to our relationship with my mom. What I know on the other side of it is how much stronger and authentic our relationships have become now that I walked through that discomfort and they very much were open to reconnecting with me as a lot of our relationships will be.

Yes. and i think even beyond the self-betrayal that you were referencing that happens and we don't honor or set our own boundaries and honor them is the resentment like we were talking about earlier it then becomes so natural for us to get upset directly or indirectly with the other person holding them responsible for our lack of boundaries on some at least subconscious level and then over time

Yes. and i think even beyond the self-betrayal that you were referencing that happens and we don't honor or set our own boundaries and honor them is the resentment like we were talking about earlier it then becomes so natural for us to get upset directly or indirectly with the other person holding them responsible for our lack of boundaries on some at least subconscious level and then over time

that resentment can quite quickly turn into contempt, which has been studied in relational literature, relational research, that can be one of the number one killers, like points on which factors that contribute to the end of the relationship.

that resentment can quite quickly turn into contempt, which has been studied in relational literature, relational research, that can be one of the number one killers, like points on which factors that contribute to the end of the relationship.

So I can make a case not only will allow us to be in alignment with ourselves individually so that we can be of service to others, it will decrease the natural resentment that happens as a byproduct of us not having our needs met.

So I can make a case not only will allow us to be in alignment with ourselves individually so that we can be of service to others, it will decrease the natural resentment that happens as a byproduct of us not having our needs met.

But it's hard for a lot of people. And this all goes back to, I think, the underlying kind of conversation we're having around belief, you know, in the self and the worthiness that we have to set the boundary, to show up as who we are, to be supported and connected in our authentic self-expression. The more we inaction...

But it's hard for a lot of people. And this all goes back to, I think, the underlying kind of conversation we're having around belief, you know, in the self and the worthiness that we have to set the boundary, to show up as who we are, to be supported and connected in our authentic self-expression. The more we inaction...

live those choices every day, even when they're hard, the more this is how, in my opinion, beliefs truly change. Affirmations are an incredibly important tool to affirm a new way of thinking, though that has to go hand in hand with these daily choices.

live those choices every day, even when they're hard, the more this is how, in my opinion, beliefs truly change. Affirmations are an incredibly important tool to affirm a new way of thinking, though that has to go hand in hand with these daily choices.

And when we're acting in self-betrayal, when we're neglecting ourself so we think in service of someone else, the belief that we're strengthening, like I was sharing earlier, is one of unworthiness.

And when we're acting in self-betrayal, when we're neglecting ourself so we think in service of someone else, the belief that we're strengthening, like I was sharing earlier, is one of unworthiness.

So when we shift that and make the small choices by setting boundaries, by allowing ourselves the space to meet our needs, to individually be in our own authentic self-expression, the more now we're living the experience of worthiness.

So when we shift that and make the small choices by setting boundaries, by allowing ourselves the space to meet our needs, to individually be in our own authentic self-expression, the more now we're living the experience of worthiness.

That's so wise. I'm kind of repeating this idea of we are kind of self-canceling and how damaging that can be in those moments of self-censorship. So many of us have that voice of concern and very much could map onto the very real objective reality that many of us have witnessed or even experienced. And

That's so wise. I'm kind of repeating this idea of we are kind of self-canceling and how damaging that can be in those moments of self-censorship. So many of us have that voice of concern and very much could map onto the very real objective reality that many of us have witnessed or even experienced. And

Something I've learned after having very many misinterpretations of myself, my own work out there at quite scale is I've learned the limits of control that I have around how other people perceive the world around them, myself included. We're all viewing each other and experiences through our own filters.

Something I've learned after having very many misinterpretations of myself, my own work out there at quite scale is I've learned the limits of control that I have around how other people perceive the world around them, myself included. We're all viewing each other and experiences through our own filters.