Dr. Nicole LePera

And what I mean when I say that is there is no quote unquote, as uncomfortable as I think this is for many of us, objective reality. Where everyone, even in this room that we're in right now, can have one experience happen and us each describe it or experience it in the exact same way. Because out of our conscious awareness, we're each filtering. We're seeing certain aspects of it.

And what I mean when I say that is there is no quote unquote, as uncomfortable as I think this is for many of us, objective reality. Where everyone, even in this room that we're in right now, can have one experience happen and us each describe it or experience it in the exact same way. Because out of our conscious awareness, we're each filtering. We're seeing certain aspects of it.

We're making meaning of certain aspects of it or interpreting it in certain ways that are then going to impact how we feel about the experience. And that's going to further color the experience that we continue to have. So grounded in that reality that no matter how much as the person, as I shared earlier, I want it to be liked by everyone, not upsetting anyone.

We're making meaning of certain aspects of it or interpreting it in certain ways that are then going to impact how we feel about the experience. And that's going to further color the experience that we continue to have. So grounded in that reality that no matter how much as the person, as I shared earlier, I want it to be liked by everyone, not upsetting anyone.

After having moments where it doesn't matter how we say things, sometimes people will see and will filter and will interpret. Our saying, our actions, our self-expression in a way that's more connected to them than to it is at us at all.

After having moments where it doesn't matter how we say things, sometimes people will see and will filter and will interpret. Our saying, our actions, our self-expression in a way that's more connected to them than to it is at us at all.

So living in authenticity means, as I've discovered, which is quite difficult even for me to this day, learning how to be misinterpreted, learning how to disappoint others or to be someone that they think we are. When in reality, I know in my heart who I am. And this doesn't mean, of course, two things.

So living in authenticity means, as I've discovered, which is quite difficult even for me to this day, learning how to be misinterpreted, learning how to disappoint others or to be someone that they think we are. When in reality, I know in my heart who I am. And this doesn't mean, of course, two things.

It doesn't mean that we take in all of the feedback, especially when we are deciding to live more publicly or to present ourselves more publicly where groups of people are seeing our ideas or hearing our ideas and seeing our self-expression. It on the one hand doesn't mean that we take all of the feedback in as truth. Because they're interpreting it. So it's more subjective than objective.

It doesn't mean that we take in all of the feedback, especially when we are deciding to live more publicly or to present ourselves more publicly where groups of people are seeing our ideas or hearing our ideas and seeing our self-expression. It on the one hand doesn't mean that we take all of the feedback in as truth. Because they're interpreting it. So it's more subjective than objective.

So if I were to take everything everyone said of me as the reality of me and the experience of me, then I'm really going to limit myself in terms of disconnection from myself, in terms of taking on interpretations that aren't accurate. If on the other hand, I don't ever allow, especially those that are closest to me, that I have trust and a safe, secure relationship.

So if I were to take everything everyone said of me as the reality of me and the experience of me, then I'm really going to limit myself in terms of disconnection from myself, in terms of taking on interpretations that aren't accurate. If on the other hand, I don't ever allow, especially those that are closest to me, that I have trust and a safe, secure relationship.

This is why relationships can be our greatest teachers because we are blinded. to ourselves in so many ways. So the loved ones that we trust and relationships that we are secure within, I've heard many difficult truths that I did not imagine to be true about myself many times over the years, that it didn't mean I, again, just took it on as the truth of me, but what I was able to do was

This is why relationships can be our greatest teachers because we are blinded. to ourselves in so many ways. So the loved ones that we trust and relationships that we are secure within, I've heard many difficult truths that I did not imagine to be true about myself many times over the years, that it didn't mean I, again, just took it on as the truth of me, but what I was able to do was

try it on for size, as I like to say. Oh, interesting. On multiple occasions, I've heard this interpretation of me or my behavior. Let me see for myself if I could see where this perspective is coming from. So then I continue to be empowered as, as I was saying, this kind of self-healer mentality is

try it on for size, as I like to say. Oh, interesting. On multiple occasions, I've heard this interpretation of me or my behavior. Let me see for myself if I could see where this perspective is coming from. So then I continue to be empowered as, as I was saying, this kind of self-healer mentality is

the expert on me, I don't have to give away my power because someone else said it, though I might be able to learn a new perspective of me.

the expert on me, I don't have to give away my power because someone else said it, though I might be able to learn a new perspective of me.

I want to share a bit of compassion because I want to go back to this idea of hurt people hurt people. Yeah. I think what has caused this level of fear in the collective to such the extent that we're afraid to share our thoughts within our family sometimes, within our Facebook groups, our friends or whatever, is the trauma, intergenerational trauma that so many of us are carrying.

I want to share a bit of compassion because I want to go back to this idea of hurt people hurt people. Yeah. I think what has caused this level of fear in the collective to such the extent that we're afraid to share our thoughts within our family sometimes, within our Facebook groups, our friends or whatever, is the trauma, intergenerational trauma that so many of us are carrying.