Dr. Nicole LePera

When we have that wounding from some of us from generations before us, when we're in what I call and write about in the new book as survival brain, we are focused on our survival on our identity as we know it and we struggle to tolerate difference in opinion we literally feel attacked in those moments and so i think why it is at scale canceling and all of these

When we have that wounding from some of us from generations before us, when we're in what I call and write about in the new book as survival brain, we are focused on our survival on our identity as we know it and we struggle to tolerate difference in opinion we literally feel attacked in those moments and so i think why it is at scale canceling and all of these

fear-based behaviors, that's what I view them as being, is because we have a very wounded collective, wounded from our ancestors, wounded from certain, you know, socio-political structures that still exist to this day. And we are walking around in threat or feeling threatened by all of the shared humanity around us.

fear-based behaviors, that's what I view them as being, is because we have a very wounded collective, wounded from our ancestors, wounded from certain, you know, socio-political structures that still exist to this day. And we are walking around in threat or feeling threatened by all of the shared humanity around us.

now more of this incredible conversation together and so i would say that it's kind of the hurt that's coming out in all of these now public arenas yeah that's coming from a very real insecure emotionally threatened place where the individual who's doing the canceling or the threatening is reacting in the only way that they know how to gain some sense of security of safety of control

now more of this incredible conversation together and so i would say that it's kind of the hurt that's coming out in all of these now public arenas yeah that's coming from a very real insecure emotionally threatened place where the individual who's doing the canceling or the threatening is reacting in the only way that they know how to gain some sense of security of safety of control

And what I hope to be a contributor to is the global shift that I'm seeing happening at the same time of so many of us breaking cycles, beginning to heal, creating nervous system regulation as opposed to dysregulation, shifting out of that survival brain where we can only focus on difference and react.

And what I hope to be a contributor to is the global shift that I'm seeing happening at the same time of so many of us breaking cycles, beginning to heal, creating nervous system regulation as opposed to dysregulation, shifting out of that survival brain where we can only focus on difference and react.

as threatened by difference and being able to go back to the collaborative, compassionate creatures that I truly believe is in the hearts and wiring of each and every one of us. So I'm, as being on the receiving end of quite difficult public experiences myself,

as threatened by difference and being able to go back to the collaborative, compassionate creatures that I truly believe is in the hearts and wiring of each and every one of us. So I'm, as being on the receiving end of quite difficult public experiences myself,

as destabilizing as that was for me emotionally, because I want to acknowledge anyone who's put a post up and gotten that severe type of reaction or has lost jobs and income and relationships is traumatizing. It put me in a state of for several months of nervous system dysregulation because we need to belong.

as destabilizing as that was for me emotionally, because I want to acknowledge anyone who's put a post up and gotten that severe type of reaction or has lost jobs and income and relationships is traumatizing. It put me in a state of for several months of nervous system dysregulation because we need to belong.

And when we are losing financial resources, when we are losing relationships and community as some of us are completely ostracized, it is traumatizing. It's gonna activate our nervous system in the deepest way. So I wanna be really sensitive to both participants

And when we are losing financial resources, when we are losing relationships and community as some of us are completely ostracized, it is traumatizing. It's gonna activate our nervous system in the deepest way. So I wanna be really sensitive to both participants

the ones canceling and the ones on the receiving end because i see it as just wounded individuals trying to seek some semblance of safety and identity the only way that they know how and again at the same time i see so much hope for the future for so many of us that are learning how to rewire our nervous systems, create regulation, actually able to tolerate differences.

the ones canceling and the ones on the receiving end because i see it as just wounded individuals trying to seek some semblance of safety and identity the only way that they know how and again at the same time i see so much hope for the future for so many of us that are learning how to rewire our nervous systems, create regulation, actually able to tolerate differences.

Even if we may never agree on a particular topic, we don't have to tear people down and we can negotiate for the greater good of everyone.

Even if we may never agree on a particular topic, we don't have to tear people down and we can negotiate for the greater good of everyone.

Yeah, and I want to talk just quickly about the science of being ostracized and not belonging, whether it's in the third grade or us as adults. It all activates the same physical pain center in our brain. When I say we are wired to connect, we need community. I mean, it goes down to we physically hurt when we don't feel belonged or when we are objectively cast out or ostracized.

Yeah, and I want to talk just quickly about the science of being ostracized and not belonging, whether it's in the third grade or us as adults. It all activates the same physical pain center in our brain. When I say we are wired to connect, we need community. I mean, it goes down to we physically hurt when we don't feel belonged or when we are objectively cast out or ostracized.