Dr. Nicole LePera

So I think therapy and therapy has been studied to the extent that researchers are very interested in what are the factors to determine good therapy or successful therapy. And research, I believe, has landed on the most number one predictor of whether therapy is good or will be impactful for you is the relationship. how safe and secure and connected you feel in relationship to that person.

So I think therapy and therapy has been studied to the extent that researchers are very interested in what are the factors to determine good therapy or successful therapy. And research, I believe, has landed on the most number one predictor of whether therapy is good or will be impactful for you is the relationship. how safe and secure and connected you feel in relationship to that person.

So then that I think allows a much more kind of individualized answer to this question, which can really be simplified by Do you feel like that person that you're going into week after week is a safe, secure, curious space where you can begin to explore yourself? And for a lot of people, I don't think that happens immediately on the first session.

So then that I think allows a much more kind of individualized answer to this question, which can really be simplified by Do you feel like that person that you're going into week after week is a safe, secure, curious space where you can begin to explore yourself? And for a lot of people, I don't think that happens immediately on the first session.

I think a lot of us have wounding from early relationships where maybe we did share things and it was used against us.

I think a lot of us have wounding from early relationships where maybe we did share things and it was used against us.

so allowing that possibility that it might take some time for us to feel comfortable being vulnerable and opening up yeah though is that person present with us in the room are they a secure or consistent i should say connective space where they're curious allowing us to then work through that discomfort but yeah research shows it's going to be very individualized so i could go to a therapist and be like oh this person is so great and this is why i

so allowing that possibility that it might take some time for us to feel comfortable being vulnerable and opening up yeah though is that person present with us in the room are they a secure or consistent i should say connective space where they're curious allowing us to then work through that discomfort but yeah research shows it's going to be very individualized so i could go to a therapist and be like oh this person is so great and this is why i

hesitant always to give recommendations or referrals, though I get asked quite frequently, because it is so much about the individual and what they need in that room to feel that safety and that security.

hesitant always to give recommendations or referrals, though I get asked quite frequently, because it is so much about the individual and what they need in that room to feel that safety and that security.

part just to be able which is part of the whole process of having that space to kind of share it all I think all relationships as I write about and how to be the love you see come back to safety and security whether it's your romantic partner your family your friend or your therapist yeah that is the foundation of connection and ultimately of attunement

part just to be able which is part of the whole process of having that space to kind of share it all I think all relationships as I write about and how to be the love you see come back to safety and security whether it's your romantic partner your family your friend or your therapist yeah that is the foundation of connection and ultimately of attunement

And I do think a lot of us look for the degrees or the training or the letters after people's name. And it's interesting even to watch the field itself expand. When I was deciding my training program to be a licensed clinician, essentially to have a practice, you had to get either the PhD, the clinical PhD that I received, or a degree called the PsyD.

And I do think a lot of us look for the degrees or the training or the letters after people's name. And it's interesting even to watch the field itself expand. When I was deciding my training program to be a licensed clinician, essentially to have a practice, you had to get either the PhD, the clinical PhD that I received, or a degree called the PsyD.

It was kind of the psychological version of clinical practice, if you will. As time continued and now to this day, there's other helping professionals, other degrees, other coaches that can create that safety and that security for individuals. So that I think is the foundation aside from degrees or letters or training programs that people came through.

It was kind of the psychological version of clinical practice, if you will. As time continued and now to this day, there's other helping professionals, other degrees, other coaches that can create that safety and that security for individuals. So that I think is the foundation aside from degrees or letters or training programs that people came through.

How able are they to be present and attuned and give you the opportunity to let down that guard however long it takes?

How able are they to be present and attuned and give you the opportunity to let down that guard however long it takes?

I want to acknowledge that therapists are human too.

I want to acknowledge that therapists are human too.