Dr. Nicole LePera

So they will be human in the room and some very much, very well intentioned with all the education could be having a reaction that is, you register, right?

So they will be human in the room and some very much, very well intentioned with all the education could be having a reaction that is, you register, right?

right they could say something directly in response to something that it is that you say they might give you the feeling that they're not fully comfortable with some and i would see this a lot with my colleagues who i was trained i did a lot of training in substance use so a lot of my clients would use substances at any point or like kind of across their recovery process and would have pretty severe diagnoses so i was really comfortable with seeing

right they could say something directly in response to something that it is that you say they might give you the feeling that they're not fully comfortable with some and i would see this a lot with my colleagues who i was trained i did a lot of training in substance use so a lot of my clients would use substances at any point or like kind of across their recovery process and would have pretty severe diagnoses so i was really comfortable with seeing

whoever really it is that walked into the room though. I would hear very directly in supervision circles from some colleagues who wouldn't want to see a type of person because it would make them feel insecure, ill-equipped, and probably refer them out for their own best interest. Just imagining the feeling in the room. So back to your then question, Jamie, which is our bodies are sensors.

whoever really it is that walked into the room though. I would hear very directly in supervision circles from some colleagues who wouldn't want to see a type of person because it would make them feel insecure, ill-equipped, and probably refer them out for their own best interest. Just imagining the feeling in the room. So back to your then question, Jamie, which is our bodies are sensors.

We will if we're connected to ourself. Even like you were describing earlier, those moments of misalignment when I feel tension, when my muscles begin to clench, when my heart rate begins to race, when my breath maybe becomes really quick and shallow or I'm holding my breath when I say something because I don't know how the person is going to react.

We will if we're connected to ourself. Even like you were describing earlier, those moments of misalignment when I feel tension, when my muscles begin to clench, when my heart rate begins to race, when my breath maybe becomes really quick and shallow or I'm holding my breath when I say something because I don't know how the person is going to react.

If I don't feel at ease in my body, if my muscles don't feel at ease, if I can't get a deep breath in from my belly, if my heart rate is not in that normal range throughout, of course, when we're sharing something new and vulnerable, we might feel that spike.

If I don't feel at ease in my body, if my muscles don't feel at ease, if I can't get a deep breath in from my belly, if my heart rate is not in that normal range throughout, of course, when we're sharing something new and vulnerable, we might feel that spike.

yeah initially especially if we're not used to but over the large majority of our sessions or time together are we able to and i do think a lot of people gain that from the clinical experience they come into the room and it's almost as if their body just feels at ease they kind of melt into the chair and they just feel more open to the conversation though our body will always tell us when something is aligned when something is threatening

yeah initially especially if we're not used to but over the large majority of our sessions or time together are we able to and i do think a lot of people gain that from the clinical experience they come into the room and it's almost as if their body just feels at ease they kind of melt into the chair and they just feel more open to the conversation though our body will always tell us when something is aligned when something is threatening

and giving again the therapist the the compassionate gift of humanity like i was saying not every therapist might be aligned for you and for the type of work that you want to do with them though it doesn't mean that there's anything inherently unworthy about you they're a human too they might be carrying their own past experience that is impacting their ability to receive yours

and giving again the therapist the the compassionate gift of humanity like i was saying not every therapist might be aligned for you and for the type of work that you want to do with them though it doesn't mean that there's anything inherently unworthy about you they're a human too they might be carrying their own past experience that is impacting their ability to receive yours

The first thing I would offer is a suggestion to celebrate that awareness. So we walk through life so blinded when we become aware that something is off, whether it's in our own relationship with ourself and our mental or emotional wellness or in our relationship with others. That's so important.

The first thing I would offer is a suggestion to celebrate that awareness. So we walk through life so blinded when we become aware that something is off, whether it's in our own relationship with ourself and our mental or emotional wellness or in our relationship with others. That's so important.

to acknowledge and celebrate before we shame whatever it is that we're coming to the awareness is off because that's a huge step in their direction of creating change, of finding balance again. Of course, if there's helpful relationships that you can seek out for support, sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is sharing that awareness with a trusted loved one, right?

to acknowledge and celebrate before we shame whatever it is that we're coming to the awareness is off because that's a huge step in their direction of creating change, of finding balance again. Of course, if there's helpful relationships that you can seek out for support, sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is sharing that awareness with a trusted loved one, right?

Telling someone of this instinct that you're having, right? that there is something going on on a deeper level that you might want and welcome support around. Going back even to this idea of offering help or suggestions, it might be helpful in that moment if you want a suggestion to let the person know, hey, I want to share something with you right now.

Telling someone of this instinct that you're having, right? that there is something going on on a deeper level that you might want and welcome support around. Going back even to this idea of offering help or suggestions, it might be helpful in that moment if you want a suggestion to let the person know, hey, I want to share something with you right now.