Dr. Nicole LePera

wanted to give us what we needed, but we don't yet know.

So I want to kind of make it clear here, two things that you very wisely said, age aside, we don't go from 100 to zero.

It really is a smaller kind of movement, right?

We don't go from completely overwhelmed to peace and zen, right?

We shift slowly.

We downshift through small, consistent actions.

I can even make a case that the farther, the more we move out of our kind of comfortable, habitual behaviors, right?

Those of us who at New Year's, we want to start a new life starting tomorrow.

Now we want to have all these new habits.

What we're really doing is we're stressing out an already overstressed system.

As frustrating as it is the pathway, the change is best made with small, consistent steps that we're able to maintain, which is why in all of my work, I try to break down these habits, new habits into the smallest choice that we can make and maintain because that's how change is only possible.

We have to stay within a window.

We don't become so overwhelmed, even though it's completely natural.

So in that moment, many of us are reparenting.

If we didn't have a parent who showed us

how to care for our physical or emotional body, now we're creating some new habits that are so much more supportive.

And then to the next question of what do I need right now, I'd want to speak to us who might not know right away, right?

Might never have had a parent who cared to ask or who could meet our need if and when we were able to, once we got the ability to verbalize it, verbalize what it was or attune to what it was before we could speak it.

So I really want to normalize as you begin this journey.

You might not know.