Dr. Nicole LePera

possibly leaving us with whatever the upset is that caused the silent treatment or the disconnection from someone else. Now we're completely, that's what trauma is, right? It's the overwhelm that exists in our bodies when we don't have the support to deal with the emotions that we're experiencing.

possibly leaving us with whatever the upset is that caused the silent treatment or the disconnection from someone else. Now we're completely, that's what trauma is, right? It's the overwhelm that exists in our bodies when we don't have the support to deal with the emotions that we're experiencing.

So allowing, and I will be the first to admit, as painful as it was to having been on the receiving end of that experience, I have the habit at times instinctually to want to give my loved ones a silent treatment, to want to remove myself, be cold emotionally, if not go silent entirely, to disappear for the day and not respond to their text of interest, of worry, of anything.

So allowing, and I will be the first to admit, as painful as it was to having been on the receiving end of that experience, I have the habit at times instinctually to want to give my loved ones a silent treatment, to want to remove myself, be cold emotionally, if not go silent entirely, to disappear for the day and not respond to their text of interest, of worry, of anything.

And so I will be the first to admit that we might carry very painful, shameful habits that we were on the receiving end of.

And so I will be the first to admit that we might carry very painful, shameful habits that we were on the receiving end of.

And this goes back to my inability to be with my emotional upset, my inability to acknowledge my upset to someone on whose relationship I'm in desire of having, my inability to have those moments of repair or reconnection after there's natural conflict or upset in a relationship. So I literally become just as overwhelmed as my mom once was, and then I end up doing the same thing.

And this goes back to my inability to be with my emotional upset, my inability to acknowledge my upset to someone on whose relationship I'm in desire of having, my inability to have those moments of repair or reconnection after there's natural conflict or upset in a relationship. So I literally become just as overwhelmed as my mom once was, and then I end up doing the same thing.

I think it's similar to the extent that upset happened and the individual who's ghosting. Even if it's just as simple as I'm not interested in you and I can't, whether or not there was conflict or upset that happened, you know, a lot of times we'll date someone for a couple times and then we'll

I think it's similar to the extent that upset happened and the individual who's ghosting. Even if it's just as simple as I'm not interested in you and I can't, whether or not there was conflict or upset that happened, you know, a lot of times we'll date someone for a couple times and then we'll

ghost them because I don't have the ability to directly acknowledge to you that I don't want to pursue a relationship with you. I think anytime we disconnect to that extent that we're ghosting or removing ourselves from a relationship is born out of a discomfort that that person is feeling. And now I think, yes, we have block features. We have all of these ways that we can

ghost them because I don't have the ability to directly acknowledge to you that I don't want to pursue a relationship with you. I think anytime we disconnect to that extent that we're ghosting or removing ourselves from a relationship is born out of a discomfort that that person is feeling. And now I think, yes, we have block features. We have all of these ways that we can

to instantly ghost someone.

to instantly ghost someone.

Exactly. Not have to acknowledge it to ourselves sometimes, to that other person, not to have that difficult... And again, I'll be the first to admit, I've ghosted people in my past, unable, nothing even...

Exactly. Not have to acknowledge it to ourselves sometimes, to that other person, not to have that difficult... And again, I'll be the first to admit, I've ghosted people in my past, unable, nothing even...

dramatic having happened beginning to develop a relationship with someone determining that it isn't a relationship I want to pursue not having the ability or the emotional bandwidth to just acknowledge that directly and respect the person enough to say that and instead just to vanish from their life and then run away and then the byproduct of that not only are we hurtful to the person?

dramatic having happened beginning to develop a relationship with someone determining that it isn't a relationship I want to pursue not having the ability or the emotional bandwidth to just acknowledge that directly and respect the person enough to say that and instead just to vanish from their life and then run away and then the byproduct of that not only are we hurtful to the person?

Are we not giving them our actual reason so their mind is gonna interpret our absence? A lot of times we're left now looking over our shoulder and worry that we don't wanna now see the person that we've ghosted and we're carrying shame to have another experience or run in. So it's not helpful for anyone.

Are we not giving them our actual reason so their mind is gonna interpret our absence? A lot of times we're left now looking over our shoulder and worry that we don't wanna now see the person that we've ghosted and we're carrying shame to have another experience or run in. So it's not helpful for anyone.