Dr. Nicole McNichols

What we know is that when people's sex lives improve, when they experience change,

An uptick in sexual satisfaction later on, they experience more relationship satisfaction.

In other words, working on your sex life will improve your relationship in an important, very authentic, powerful way that really deserves attention.

It's essentially an academic term for what we think of as resiliency, meaning it's

you're going to be faced with life's inevitable challenges.

There's going to be problems that are thrown your way.

But what we don't realize is that pleasure actually fuels you to be able to meet those head on.

When we're given sources of pleasure,

Those negative challenges can be right there, but we're just more creative and more likely to find the people and the ideas that are going to help us to solve those very problems.

So sex is important, yes, for your health, for your well-being, for your relationship, but it's also going to play a transformative part in your life that is not superfluous, but is actually absolutely essential to your well-being.

Exactly.

Yes, exactly.

And I'm here to tell you that all of us deserve that.

I think all people recognize that this is an area of their lives that they would like to improve, but that if you're able to do the work of figuring out what turns you on, prioritizing pleasure, figuring out how to communicate that to a partner, how to keep that

some elements of novelty alive while still not becoming a whole different person, that that very skill set that is going to enable you to have an incredible, satisfying sex life, that's going to translate into other areas of your life.

I mean, really, when you're prioritizing sexual intimacy, you're prioritizing yourself and you're developing skills that are going to help you in just about every other area.

The reality is that, yeah, we're born thinking that, okay, we should, you know, just all be really good at sex.

So we should just know instantly what turns each other on.

But the reality, and this may not sound sexy, is that

But sex is a skill, right?