Dr. Paul Conti

They're very, very basic premises, but so often we're not looking at them at all, right?

We're not looking at them at all because we tend to skip over them.

And we tend to skip over them either because again, in some automatic way that sometimes is trauma-driven or we're not gonna look at

And often not taking care of ourselves can have the punishment, distraction, right?

There's so much that can come into that.

Or our sense of power is tied to not taking care of ourselves.

I mean, I'll give you an example is I tend to, for whatever reason, do reasonably well with very poor self-care, right?

And like that was very adaptive when I was in some medical training, right?

And I'm like, okay, I can eat a lot today.

I can not eat, right?

I can sleep two hours.

I can sleep eight, right?

I mean, overall, that's not good.

And it hasn't been good for me as I've aged.

But then I realized at some point, look, I'm doing all these things to make myself healthier, but like, what, I ignore that?

And why am I ignoring it?

That was a key question.

Why am I ignoring it?

Because somewhere inside of me is it was, and still to some extent is, this idea that my ability to be really functional, to generate success in the world around me is tied to my ability to do that.

But if I stop doing that and now I'm like, I'm eating and sleeping regularly, then I'm going to lose some edge.