Dr. Paul Conti

And then they say, right, I was a terrified child, right?

I didn't understand at all.

And they can come to a place of compassion.

And now we are working against the guilt and shame.

And if the person cries about it, that's great, right?

I mean, crying is one of the best coping mechanisms we have.

It doesn't hurt us.

And it lets us grieve things.

We can't grieve if there's guilt and shame inside of us.

It just blocks us.

grief, right?

It has to be a clean slate, in a sense, in order to feel sadness.

And then you see that it shifts from anxiety, anger, and frustration, usually directed towards the self, guilt, and shame, towards being able to process it and being able to bring to bear some compassion and being able to direct the negative emotions, so to speak, where they're warranted.

And

My goodness, the changes.

It's remarkable how just getting it out there and having like one hour of talking like that, like what we're talking about now, can leave a person feeling immensely better.

It starts with real introspection.

When things are bouncing around in our minds, often it's very non-productive, right?

It's the same thing over and over again.

And that's not helpful for us, right?