Dr Paul Eastwick
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first heard Feb 2026
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Like, yeah, kind of.
But also, isn't it beautiful that people create these things together over time and that this can really be something, the goofy and jokes, whatever, that really sustains them?
What are the pro-relationship biases at play then?
Yeah.
So luckily, we've got all of these wonderful pro-relationship biases that help us to maintain relationships over time.
I would say probably the main one is that people tend to derogate alternative partners.
This is important.
I mean, it gets back to our earlier discussion.
How can an 8 be with a 5?
Well, when there are attractive partners coming up to that 8...
those attractive alternative partners are already operating at a disadvantage because if they're eights too, she sees them as sixes.
It's like an automatic bias that's built in right off the top that downgrades anybody else who's going to come along.
At least this is what the average person does in a relationship.
This is an important defense mechanism.
It means that, you know, when the person in the cubicle next to me is kind of flirting with me, I like literally don't notice.
I don't encode it as flirting.
And I certainly wouldn't care if they were because they seem less appealing to me than they would if I were single.
It's this really critical bias that people have.
And look, I often talk about this like it's a good thing, OK, that we need that to sustain our relationships because relationships are hard and there often are temptations out there.
And so if we didn't have these biases, it would be the horror show of of always feeling like you're trading up.
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