Dr Paul Eastwick

I think...

you can look at contemporary polyamorous communities and make a case that like hey here's a situation where I'm attached to you

And I have sex with you and I'm also attached to this person and I have sex with this person and these relationships don't threaten each other.

Humans are, some humans.

It's a fucking rare breed, dude.

No, no, no.

I totally get it because a lot of times when you're attached to somebody, you want to feel special.

And many times feeling special means they want to have sex with me and they only want to have sex with me.

Yeah.

But yes, I do think of humans as creatures.

We form serial relationships over time.

If we want to sort of put ourselves in the serial monogamy bucket, that makes sense.

But I really think attachment is the key thing.

We have to have attachments in our lives, whether they're romantic or not, or we just completely fall apart.

Yeah.

I mean, that is the sad truth of most relationships is that people on average feel worse about their partners 10 years in than they did at five years than they did at one year in.

I mean, just people kind of sour a little bit over time.

But it's not true for everybody.

In fact, you know, probably a good chunk, maybe even the majority of relationships, people start high and stay high over time.

But relationships, they're not all built to last forever.