Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

Oh, gosh. I really appreciate you, that you have the quality of loving being around people all the time. And sometimes I... I'm not going to say I wish I could be like you. I just really appreciate that that's one of your strengths, and that's one of the qualities I love about you. But right now, it's just not something I'm feeling. I'm feeling really happy being alone, and that's my choice.

Oh, gosh. I really appreciate you, that you have the quality of loving being around people all the time. And sometimes I... I'm not going to say I wish I could be like you. I just really appreciate that that's one of your strengths, and that's one of the qualities I love about you. But right now, it's just not something I'm feeling. I'm feeling really happy being alone, and that's my choice.

I feel really sad that you're feeling hurt. And I'd love for you to tell me what it's like for you to be hurt because I don't want to go do the things that you're inviting me to do. What's that like for you that I want to do something else?

I feel really sad that you're feeling hurt. And I'd love for you to tell me what it's like for you to be hurt because I don't want to go do the things that you're inviting me to do. What's that like for you that I want to do something else?

I kind of feel like I'm winning.

I kind of feel like I'm winning.

I think I'm winning huge.

I think I'm winning huge.

I'm seeing the good in you that you're bringing to this situation instead of fighting you and asking you out of curiosity, like, what is it like for you? Yeah, right. That's opening an interesting discussion.

I'm seeing the good in you that you're bringing to this situation instead of fighting you and asking you out of curiosity, like, what is it like for you? Yeah, right. That's opening an interesting discussion.

Okay, well, let's read what he has to say. John from Ireland asks, Help, I'm shoulding on myself again. What can I do? Please do another podcast on should statements. Hi, David and Rhonda. I love the podcast and the work you folks are doing. I listen to the podcast regularly, and you're both bringing such great benefits to the world. And we'd have to add Matt to that, too.

Okay, well, let's read what he has to say. John from Ireland asks, Help, I'm shoulding on myself again. What can I do? Please do another podcast on should statements. Hi, David and Rhonda. I love the podcast and the work you folks are doing. I listen to the podcast regularly, and you're both bringing such great benefits to the world. And we'd have to add Matt to that, too.

I would love to hear another podcast on should statements. I've been going through a pretty bad and extended period of anxiety and depression in recent months. And I've been really trying to challenge my thoughts, but without much success. I am addicted to shoulds, unfortunately, and I beat up on myself relentlessly.

I would love to hear another podcast on should statements. I've been going through a pretty bad and extended period of anxiety and depression in recent months. And I've been really trying to challenge my thoughts, but without much success. I am addicted to shoulds, unfortunately, and I beat up on myself relentlessly.

I've tried to do a cost-benefit analysis, and the motivation piece is a huge part of the benefit side that is keeping me stuck. I really want to give up on my should statements. They're making my life a misery, but I'm finding I don't want to let go of the motivation piece. I don't... I have a sample below.

I've tried to do a cost-benefit analysis, and the motivation piece is a huge part of the benefit side that is keeping me stuck. I really want to give up on my should statements. They're making my life a misery, but I'm finding I don't want to let go of the motivation piece. I don't... I have a sample below.

I'd love to know if there are further steps or techniques I could use aside from the cost-benefit analysis to address the benefits and the perceived motivation piece so I can fully let go of the shoulds. Thanks so much. John from Ireland.

I'd love to know if there are further steps or techniques I could use aside from the cost-benefit analysis to address the benefits and the perceived motivation piece so I can fully let go of the shoulds. Thanks so much. John from Ireland.

Okay, I just have one thing to say, Matt.

Okay, I just have one thing to say, Matt.