Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

Well, it looks like he's leaping to methods before he's done a lot of other work. You know, he's identified anxiety and depression, but I bet there's a whole bunch of other feelings that he has. And he's identified this one thought, I should have plans on Saturday.

Well, it looks like he's leaping to methods before he's done a lot of other work. You know, he's identified anxiety and depression, but I bet there's a whole bunch of other feelings that he has. And he's identified this one thought, I should have plans on Saturday.

And I imagine if he's coping with should statements, there are lots of other painful, negative thoughts related to each one of the feelings that he's having, since we believe that thoughts... drive feelings. It would be nice to identify some other thoughts that he has. And then we haven't done any positive reframing.

And I imagine if he's coping with should statements, there are lots of other painful, negative thoughts related to each one of the feelings that he's having, since we believe that thoughts... drive feelings. It would be nice to identify some other thoughts that he has. And then we haven't done any positive reframing.

I mean, we know that he feels motivated by a should statement, but what else do we know that's really awesome about the feelings that he's having, or even that thought, I should have plans on a Saturday. So I'd want to take a step backward and

I mean, we know that he feels motivated by a should statement, but what else do we know that's really awesome about the feelings that he's having, or even that thought, I should have plans on a Saturday. So I'd want to take a step backward and

before doing cost-benefit analysis or any other method, and really explore with him what do these feelings and thoughts say about him that are really awesome and beautiful or give him an advantage or maybe they speak to his values. I think missing that piece is a huge mistake.

before doing cost-benefit analysis or any other method, and really explore with him what do these feelings and thoughts say about him that are really awesome and beautiful or give him an advantage or maybe they speak to his values. I think missing that piece is a huge mistake.

Yeah, thank you. Matt, what was the comment that you made? What you would want someone to ask themselves? What would be the problem in eliminating this thought or feeling?

Yeah, thank you. Matt, what was the comment that you made? What you would want someone to ask themselves? What would be the problem in eliminating this thought or feeling?

Would you ever use the triple paradox, like the advantage of should statements, the disadvantages of eliminating them, what should statements say about them? That's awesome.

Would you ever use the triple paradox, like the advantage of should statements, the disadvantages of eliminating them, what should statements say about them? That's awesome.

Would it ever be helpful to ask your patient or your client to you? Well, you decide how many minutes a day that you want to, you know, should yourself and you decide when you want to do it. And like I want to do it at breakfast when I'm having my coffee, reading my paper, I'm going to really should myself intensely then.

Would it ever be helpful to ask your patient or your client to you? Well, you decide how many minutes a day that you want to, you know, should yourself and you decide when you want to do it. And like I want to do it at breakfast when I'm having my coffee, reading my paper, I'm going to really should myself intensely then.

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Thank you, Owen, and we did include your excellent question, and we'll come to it shortly. So let's dive in.

Thank you, Owen, and we did include your excellent question, and we'll come to it shortly. So let's dive in.