Dr. Rhonda Barofsky

So have you actually implemented that in your own life and not given in and not said yes so much?

So have you actually implemented that in your own life and not given in and not said yes so much?

Yeah, that's right. You can call it selfishness training. And sometimes we all need a little selfishness training in order to be really loving to others. Well, let's push on here. We still have two good questions. In the next one, let's use the name Marvin for the next person. I've changed it here in the show notes.

Yeah, that's right. You can call it selfishness training. And sometimes we all need a little selfishness training in order to be really loving to others. Well, let's push on here. We still have two good questions. In the next one, let's use the name Marvin for the next person. I've changed it here in the show notes.

By the way, dysthymia means chronic, mildish type depression.

By the way, dysthymia means chronic, mildish type depression.

All right, I'll let you folks take first crack at this one.

All right, I'll let you folks take first crack at this one.

Sure. Now, Marvin's asking for some specific recommendations here. Where would he find this special kind of individualized therapy? And does it have a name?

Sure. Now, Marvin's asking for some specific recommendations here. Where would he find this special kind of individualized therapy? And does it have a name?

Yeah, that way he could get a feel for it. He's also written to me and he's in what I would call a – he sent me a long, long email that I mentioned last week. podcast that he's kind of in a blizzard of negativity, including anger and depression. And I think one very important thing is you can't get anywhere by working on a kind of an abstract level with

Yeah, that way he could get a feel for it. He's also written to me and he's in what I would call a – he sent me a long, long email that I mentioned last week. podcast that he's kind of in a blizzard of negativity, including anger and depression. And I think one very important thing is you can't get anywhere by working on a kind of an abstract level with

diagnostic terms and schools of therapy, but you have to zero in on one specific moment. I always tell people I can only help you for one five-second moment in your life, and I think Buddha had that exact same policy. You can only be helped to change yourself for one brief moment.

diagnostic terms and schools of therapy, but you have to zero in on one specific moment. I always tell people I can only help you for one five-second moment in your life, and I think Buddha had that exact same policy. You can only be helped to change yourself for one brief moment.

But according to Buddhism, what somebody told me, you would know because I haven't studied Buddhism, you might know, Rhonda or Matt, but that if you could just change yourself for one, five seconds of your life, then you'd experience enlightenment and peace. And you wouldn't have to keep being reincarnated anymore.

But according to Buddhism, what somebody told me, you would know because I haven't studied Buddhism, you might know, Rhonda or Matt, but that if you could just change yourself for one, five seconds of your life, then you'd experience enlightenment and peace. And you wouldn't have to keep being reincarnated anymore.

And I first heard that from a fellow who just came up and started talking to me on the street. When I was in Bryn Mawr, a young fellow came up and started explaining that to me. And I didn't know who he was or why he was doing that.

And I first heard that from a fellow who just came up and started talking to me on the street. When I was in Bryn Mawr, a young fellow came up and started explaining that to me. And I didn't know who he was or why he was doing that.

But then, and it didn't seem to make any sense until then, you know, days later, I got to thinking about my practice and how right on that was, that you can only change yourself for one second, two or three seconds. But all of your problems will be encapsulated in that two or three second period. So if you say, here's one specific moment I had, and then I'll be glad to help you with that.

But then, and it didn't seem to make any sense until then, you know, days later, I got to thinking about my practice and how right on that was, that you can only change yourself for one second, two or three seconds. But all of your problems will be encapsulated in that two or three second period. So if you say, here's one specific moment I had, and then I'll be glad to help you with that.