Dr. Rick Hanson

So one thing a person could do to help themselves, if they keep ruminating around, let's say, a loss or a regret or there's something they have remorse about, is to really open up to that feeling and to resource themselves so they can tolerate it and are not overwhelmed by it. But once you're able to feel it, if only for a few minutes in a row, really let yourself feel it.

So one thing a person could do to help themselves, if they keep ruminating around, let's say, a loss or a regret or there's something they have remorse about, is to really open up to that feeling and to resource themselves so they can tolerate it and are not overwhelmed by it. But once you're able to feel it, if only for a few minutes in a row, really let yourself feel it.

So one thing a person could do to help themselves, if they keep ruminating around, let's say, a loss or a regret or there's something they have remorse about, is to really open up to that feeling and to resource themselves so they can tolerate it and are not overwhelmed by it. But once you're able to feel it, if only for a few minutes in a row, really let yourself feel it.

And as you feel it, help it to flow. Blow it, in effect. That's really a crucial thing. The hacks I've mentioned are more situational. Taking action on the things that you ruminate about, including reaching out to someone you've harmed and really apologize to them, or write a letter that they'll never read because they're dead.

And as you feel it, help it to flow. Blow it, in effect. That's really a crucial thing. The hacks I've mentioned are more situational. Taking action on the things that you ruminate about, including reaching out to someone you've harmed and really apologize to them, or write a letter that they'll never read because they're dead.

And as you feel it, help it to flow. Blow it, in effect. That's really a crucial thing. The hacks I've mentioned are more situational. Taking action on the things that you ruminate about, including reaching out to someone you've harmed and really apologize to them, or write a letter that they'll never read because they're dead.

or they'll never open your mail, but you at least wrote the letter and shared it with people. You know, take the actions that you can, as well as feel the feelings fully and help them out the door. In the last few years, I've been just stunned by the amount of

or they'll never open your mail, but you at least wrote the letter and shared it with people. You know, take the actions that you can, as well as feel the feelings fully and help them out the door. In the last few years, I've been just stunned by the amount of

or they'll never open your mail, but you at least wrote the letter and shared it with people. You know, take the actions that you can, as well as feel the feelings fully and help them out the door. In the last few years, I've been just stunned by the amount of

mistakes that i've made in my life that have resurfaced for me to consider it's not like people brought them to me it's just my mind has gotten quiet enough that that stuff in some of those rooms you know in the mansion of the mind has started to open their doors on their own And push their way into the living room. Hello, Rick, you really fucked up there. How do you feel about it now?

mistakes that i've made in my life that have resurfaced for me to consider it's not like people brought them to me it's just my mind has gotten quiet enough that that stuff in some of those rooms you know in the mansion of the mind has started to open their doors on their own And push their way into the living room. Hello, Rick, you really fucked up there. How do you feel about it now?

mistakes that i've made in my life that have resurfaced for me to consider it's not like people brought them to me it's just my mind has gotten quiet enough that that stuff in some of those rooms you know in the mansion of the mind has started to open their doors on their own And push their way into the living room. Hello, Rick, you really fucked up there. How do you feel about it now?

And I've had to really come to terms with it. But the key to that is to let it to flow. So that's a deep aspect to it. And then your other question, there's tremendous evidence that people can really change over time. They really can, as you talk about, go into those different rooms and gradually clear them out. You know, they really can. And so what are the factors that help people do that?

And I've had to really come to terms with it. But the key to that is to let it to flow. So that's a deep aspect to it. And then your other question, there's tremendous evidence that people can really change over time. They really can, as you talk about, go into those different rooms and gradually clear them out. You know, they really can. And so what are the factors that help people do that?

And I've had to really come to terms with it. But the key to that is to let it to flow. So that's a deep aspect to it. And then your other question, there's tremendous evidence that people can really change over time. They really can, as you talk about, go into those different rooms and gradually clear them out. You know, they really can. And so what are the factors that help people do that?

One is to just like anything is to bring effort to it. How much time are you spending really productively on, you know, releasing old pain? you know, and replacing it with something beneficial, including things like kindness toward yourself and compassion for yourself and respect.

One is to just like anything is to bring effort to it. How much time are you spending really productively on, you know, releasing old pain? you know, and replacing it with something beneficial, including things like kindness toward yourself and compassion for yourself and respect.

One is to just like anything is to bring effort to it. How much time are you spending really productively on, you know, releasing old pain? you know, and replacing it with something beneficial, including things like kindness toward yourself and compassion for yourself and respect.

I've been with people, a lot of whom are men, in business settings and also in wilderness settings who are really fierce, really tough, really prepared to deal with a lot of challenge who are are completely undone at the prospect of being at all emotionally vulnerable with another person. Like that is staggeringly hard for them.

I've been with people, a lot of whom are men, in business settings and also in wilderness settings who are really fierce, really tough, really prepared to deal with a lot of challenge who are are completely undone at the prospect of being at all emotionally vulnerable with another person. Like that is staggeringly hard for them.