Dr. Rick Hanson

I've been with people, a lot of whom are men, in business settings and also in wilderness settings who are really fierce, really tough, really prepared to deal with a lot of challenge who are are completely undone at the prospect of being at all emotionally vulnerable with another person. Like that is staggeringly hard for them.

You know, I think of interpersonal cowardice as a certain particular kind of cowardice. I'm not trying to shame it. I'm just sort of naming it. We're scared, right? admire yourself, respect yourself for doing that kind of noble work. So that's one factor. How much effort do you bring to it? Second, how skillful are you?

You know, I think of interpersonal cowardice as a certain particular kind of cowardice. I'm not trying to shame it. I'm just sort of naming it. We're scared, right? admire yourself, respect yourself for doing that kind of noble work. So that's one factor. How much effort do you bring to it? Second, how skillful are you?

You know, I think of interpersonal cowardice as a certain particular kind of cowardice. I'm not trying to shame it. I'm just sort of naming it. We're scared, right? admire yourself, respect yourself for doing that kind of noble work. So that's one factor. How much effort do you bring to it? Second, how skillful are you?

Are you listening to, you know, your podcast, which is an incredibly dense repository of wisdom about how to change for the better over time? You know, being skillful. And do you reach out to experts about it? It's so interesting. People understand they have to fix their

Are you listening to, you know, your podcast, which is an incredibly dense repository of wisdom about how to change for the better over time? You know, being skillful. And do you reach out to experts about it? It's so interesting. People understand they have to fix their

Are you listening to, you know, your podcast, which is an incredibly dense repository of wisdom about how to change for the better over time? You know, being skillful. And do you reach out to experts about it? It's so interesting. People understand they have to fix their

faucet um you need an expert let's say someone who knows how to do it maybe you already know how to do it but if you don't know how to do it you want to get someone who knows how to do it well if you want to uh fix the leaking faucets you know and they're spewing that are dripping crud in your mind talk to an expert uh as best you can given the expenses involved do the best you can there i think that's that's also important and then there's another thing which is uh

faucet um you need an expert let's say someone who knows how to do it maybe you already know how to do it but if you don't know how to do it you want to get someone who knows how to do it well if you want to uh fix the leaking faucets you know and they're spewing that are dripping crud in your mind talk to an expert uh as best you can given the expenses involved do the best you can there i think that's that's also important and then there's another thing which is uh

faucet um you need an expert let's say someone who knows how to do it maybe you already know how to do it but if you don't know how to do it you want to get someone who knows how to do it well if you want to uh fix the leaking faucets you know and they're spewing that are dripping crud in your mind talk to an expert uh as best you can given the expenses involved do the best you can there i think that's that's also important and then there's another thing which is uh

In wisdom traditions, it's considered that the path and the cart of healing, growing, and awakening, I think of those three, healing, growing, awakening, is like a cart with two wheels. They're two tracks. And one is the track that we've been entirely focused on, which is developmental change over time, which means you've got to be changing your brain over time.

In wisdom traditions, it's considered that the path and the cart of healing, growing, and awakening, I think of those three, healing, growing, awakening, is like a cart with two wheels. They're two tracks. And one is the track that we've been entirely focused on, which is developmental change over time, which means you've got to be changing your brain over time.

In wisdom traditions, it's considered that the path and the cart of healing, growing, and awakening, I think of those three, healing, growing, awakening, is like a cart with two wheels. They're two tracks. And one is the track that we've been entirely focused on, which is developmental change over time, which means you've got to be changing your brain over time.

But the second track is true nature already. what's always already a word again, already true underneath it all of who you really are. And can you get in touch with that? Can you believe in it? Uh, can you use it as a refuge that you can return to so that the two tracks support each other? You know, um, The phrase gradual cultivation, sudden awakening, gradual cultivation.

But the second track is true nature already. what's always already a word again, already true underneath it all of who you really are. And can you get in touch with that? Can you believe in it? Uh, can you use it as a refuge that you can return to so that the two tracks support each other? You know, um, The phrase gradual cultivation, sudden awakening, gradual cultivation.

But the second track is true nature already. what's always already a word again, already true underneath it all of who you really are. And can you get in touch with that? Can you believe in it? Uh, can you use it as a refuge that you can return to so that the two tracks support each other? You know, um, The phrase gradual cultivation, sudden awakening, gradual cultivation.

It's a progressive process. And so for people to really, really change over time, I think what's really helpful is, like I said, effort as in any domain and skillfulness as in any domain. And along the way, as that change is happening, see if you can get increasingly in touch with your own fundamental good heartedness.

It's a progressive process. And so for people to really, really change over time, I think what's really helpful is, like I said, effort as in any domain and skillfulness as in any domain. And along the way, as that change is happening, see if you can get increasingly in touch with your own fundamental good heartedness.

It's a progressive process. And so for people to really, really change over time, I think what's really helpful is, like I said, effort as in any domain and skillfulness as in any domain. And along the way, as that change is happening, see if you can get increasingly in touch with your own fundamental good heartedness.

you know, your own innate goodness, the innate wakefulness, biologically, even without getting new agey or, you know, transcendental about it, just for some reason, biologically, we evolve. level of being inside us underneath personality and gender socialization and history that is unstainable, unbreakable. We didn't make it. We can't break it. It's there.