Dr. Rick Hanson

Oh, definitely. Kind of inevitably talking about it can sound kind of like professorial or didactic. Because I'm like a coach here. I'm saying, well, you want to ski? These are some things to do. Lean into it rather than back. Things like that. Beware of your edges. When you're doing this, it feels really quite intimate with yourself and kind. I mean, we're hungry. We're big, scared monkeys.

Oh, definitely. Kind of inevitably talking about it can sound kind of like professorial or didactic. Because I'm like a coach here. I'm saying, well, you want to ski? These are some things to do. Lean into it rather than back. Things like that. Beware of your edges. When you're doing this, it feels really quite intimate with yourself and kind. I mean, we're hungry. We're big, scared monkeys.

Oh, definitely. Kind of inevitably talking about it can sound kind of like professorial or didactic. Because I'm like a coach here. I'm saying, well, you want to ski? These are some things to do. Lean into it rather than back. Things like that. Beware of your edges. When you're doing this, it feels really quite intimate with yourself and kind. I mean, we're hungry. We're big, scared monkeys.

Life is hard. We're rattled. Shit happens. Most of us have been treated unfairly in different ways. Less so if you're kind of more privileged and so forth. But still, shit happens. So you're really standing up for yourself. You're helping yourself. You're being good to yourself. You're treating yourself like other people should have treated you. It's real. We want to take in. Okay.

Life is hard. We're rattled. Shit happens. Most of us have been treated unfairly in different ways. Less so if you're kind of more privileged and so forth. But still, shit happens. So you're really standing up for yourself. You're helping yourself. You're being good to yourself. You're treating yourself like other people should have treated you. It's real. We want to take in. Okay.

Life is hard. We're rattled. Shit happens. Most of us have been treated unfairly in different ways. Less so if you're kind of more privileged and so forth. But still, shit happens. So you're really standing up for yourself. You're helping yourself. You're being good to yourself. You're treating yourself like other people should have treated you. It's real. We want to take in. Okay.

And in the process of that, there's been very little research on the deliberate internalization of beneficial experiences. There's been a lot of research on the impact of sustained experiences that are beneficial and how they change the brains of humans and especially non-human animals. There's a lot of evidence for this. And one of the things I'm really interested in is retuning the amygdala.

And in the process of that, there's been very little research on the deliberate internalization of beneficial experiences. There's been a lot of research on the impact of sustained experiences that are beneficial and how they change the brains of humans and especially non-human animals. There's a lot of evidence for this. And one of the things I'm really interested in is retuning the amygdala.

And in the process of that, there's been very little research on the deliberate internalization of beneficial experiences. There's been a lot of research on the impact of sustained experiences that are beneficial and how they change the brains of humans and especially non-human animals. There's a lot of evidence for this. And one of the things I'm really interested in is retuning the amygdala.

And the parts of the brain that are biased negatively and then get very sensitized negatively, how can we retrain them over time so that they become, you know, reactive to red lights and assholes, but they are on the other hand, much more opportunity focused and have more of what's called an approach orientation, which you know is more associated with mental health, uh, and, and wellbeing.

And the parts of the brain that are biased negatively and then get very sensitized negatively, how can we retrain them over time so that they become, you know, reactive to red lights and assholes, but they are on the other hand, much more opportunity focused and have more of what's called an approach orientation, which you know is more associated with mental health, uh, and, and wellbeing.

And the parts of the brain that are biased negatively and then get very sensitized negatively, how can we retrain them over time so that they become, you know, reactive to red lights and assholes, but they are on the other hand, much more opportunity focused and have more of what's called an approach orientation, which you know is more associated with mental health, uh, and, and wellbeing.

And the lack part is really important because people are aware of how they were mistreated. Like the woman at 80 who was bullied or harassed as a kid, that creates wounds. Alongside those wounds, it could well have been, there could also well have been a lack of of inclusion in groups where she was with kids she liked. She may not have had a good friend.

And the lack part is really important because people are aware of how they were mistreated. Like the woman at 80 who was bullied or harassed as a kid, that creates wounds. Alongside those wounds, it could well have been, there could also well have been a lack of of inclusion in groups where she was with kids she liked. She may not have had a good friend.

And the lack part is really important because people are aware of how they were mistreated. Like the woman at 80 who was bullied or harassed as a kid, that creates wounds. Alongside those wounds, it could well have been, there could also well have been a lack of of inclusion in groups where she was with kids she liked. She may not have had a good friend.

Maybe her parents were busy and old school and decent, but not very touchy-feely. And so there may have been a lack of positive social supplies. We can be just as affected by the lack of the good as the presence of the bad. That's really important when people kind of reflect on themselves. What are they working with? Either way, there's quote-unquote negative material inside.

Maybe her parents were busy and old school and decent, but not very touchy-feely. And so there may have been a lack of positive social supplies. We can be just as affected by the lack of the good as the presence of the bad. That's really important when people kind of reflect on themselves. What are they working with? Either way, there's quote-unquote negative material inside.

Maybe her parents were busy and old school and decent, but not very touchy-feely. And so there may have been a lack of positive social supplies. We can be just as affected by the lack of the good as the presence of the bad. That's really important when people kind of reflect on themselves. What are they working with? Either way, there's quote-unquote negative material inside.

So if you know about your own negative material, I really enjoyed listening to you use the metaphor in going through therapy of learning about all kinds of new rooms in the mansion of your being. When you start to know what's in those rooms, then you can start to identify what are the resources inside, the strengths inside that would be a good match for that wound or that lack.

So if you know about your own negative material, I really enjoyed listening to you use the metaphor in going through therapy of learning about all kinds of new rooms in the mansion of your being. When you start to know what's in those rooms, then you can start to identify what are the resources inside, the strengths inside that would be a good match for that wound or that lack.