Dr. Robert Waldinger

Some people are very much party animals and that's what they want to focus on.

But that's not true deep happiness.

That's more a dopamine hit, right?

Well, I don't know.

For some people, that's all they really care about.

And who's to say?

I mean, it might be in the eye of the beholder.

For me, it wouldn't be deep happiness.

It's, you know, it's the, the eye of the beholder, I think, you know, you're right.

People get on a kind of treadmill where they're chasing after more and more hits of wellbeing of, you know, and, uh,

And it is sad.

I mean, Zen teaches a lot about that.

All the meditative practices talk about sitting still.

So you watch the urges for some hit, some fix of something.

You watch the urges come up, and you watch them pass away.

And that a lot of meditative practice is helping you not be...

kind of corralled by your impulses, but giving you more choice at how to respond to them.

And that means you're probably less likely to keep chasing the great parties.

It doesn't mean you don't still like parties, but it may mean that you don't have to have that as much as you used to.

Yeah.