Dr. Robin Stern

that I'm actually going to check out with my brother when I get off this podcast. But when I was married to my ex-husband and he grew up as a pianist, he had no rules. There were no boundaries. He played the piano till whenever he wanted and there was no one ever told him to stop. He never had to be anywhere on time because after all, he was an artist.

that I'm actually going to check out with my brother when I get off this podcast. But when I was married to my ex-husband and he grew up as a pianist, he had no rules. There were no boundaries. He played the piano till whenever he wanted and there was no one ever told him to stop. He never had to be anywhere on time because after all, he was an artist.

that I'm actually going to check out with my brother when I get off this podcast. But when I was married to my ex-husband and he grew up as a pianist, he had no rules. There were no boundaries. He played the piano till whenever he wanted and there was no one ever told him to stop. He never had to be anywhere on time because after all, he was an artist.

So I like to make dinner and I would like to make dinner at a certain time. And we had kids and we have two I have two wonderful children. And he would be late, but not just five minutes late, 20 minutes late, a half hour late. And sometimes he'd call after 40 minutes and say, I'm on my way home. And so he would come in and I would say, next time, can you please call me?

So I like to make dinner and I would like to make dinner at a certain time. And we had kids and we have two I have two wonderful children. And he would be late, but not just five minutes late, 20 minutes late, a half hour late. And sometimes he'd call after 40 minutes and say, I'm on my way home. And so he would come in and I would say, next time, can you please call me?

So I like to make dinner and I would like to make dinner at a certain time. And we had kids and we have two I have two wonderful children. And he would be late, but not just five minutes late, 20 minutes late, a half hour late. And sometimes he'd call after 40 minutes and say, I'm on my way home. And so he would come in and I would say, next time, can you please call me?

And it would go on like that. I wish you would let me know. I feel disrespected. Can we talk about your being late? And he would say, you have a problem.

And it would go on like that. I wish you would let me know. I feel disrespected. Can we talk about your being late? And he would say, you have a problem.

And it would go on like that. I wish you would let me know. I feel disrespected. Can we talk about your being late? And he would say, you have a problem.

And he would say that my problem was that I learned things that were false about being late, that I learned to associate it with disrespect, that I learned to associate it with not being kind or good to the other person, but really it was just a question of whatever he made up at the time. And I thought to myself, that's ridiculous. But over time...

And he would say that my problem was that I learned things that were false about being late, that I learned to associate it with disrespect, that I learned to associate it with not being kind or good to the other person, but really it was just a question of whatever he made up at the time. And I thought to myself, that's ridiculous. But over time...

And he would say that my problem was that I learned things that were false about being late, that I learned to associate it with disrespect, that I learned to associate it with not being kind or good to the other person, but really it was just a question of whatever he made up at the time. And I thought to myself, that's ridiculous. But over time...

when he would come late to dinner or late to the kids' choral concert or late to the school meeting. And he would tell me, don't start, I'm fine. If you have a problem with my being late, Maybe you need to see someone about it. And so you could tell the relationship was already devolving anyway. But I began to think. And I was writing about gaslighting at the time.

when he would come late to dinner or late to the kids' choral concert or late to the school meeting. And he would tell me, don't start, I'm fine. If you have a problem with my being late, Maybe you need to see someone about it. And so you could tell the relationship was already devolving anyway. But I began to think. And I was writing about gaslighting at the time.

when he would come late to dinner or late to the kids' choral concert or late to the school meeting. And he would tell me, don't start, I'm fine. If you have a problem with my being late, Maybe you need to see someone about it. And so you could tell the relationship was already devolving anyway. But I began to think. And I was writing about gaslighting at the time.

And I was somebody who was pretty confident in my own perceptions. And I was working at a psychoanalytic institute. And I was teaching about reality. I was teaching what is subjective reality and objective reality. And I'm watching this process in my own mind. And thinking, he's gaslighting me. But what if he's right? Yes. And it was amazing to me.

And I was somebody who was pretty confident in my own perceptions. And I was working at a psychoanalytic institute. And I was teaching about reality. I was teaching what is subjective reality and objective reality. And I'm watching this process in my own mind. And thinking, he's gaslighting me. But what if he's right? Yes. And it was amazing to me.

And I was somebody who was pretty confident in my own perceptions. And I was working at a psychoanalytic institute. And I was teaching about reality. I was teaching what is subjective reality and objective reality. And I'm watching this process in my own mind. And thinking, he's gaslighting me. But what if he's right? Yes. And it was amazing to me.

And I think that I managed to be so fascinated by the fact that it was happening that I wasn't really feeling the discomfort about it for quite some time. Because we can get into the explanation trap. Oh, this is really fascinating. Let's kind of figure this out. Rather than, I don't like this. I don't want this anymore.

And I think that I managed to be so fascinated by the fact that it was happening that I wasn't really feeling the discomfort about it for quite some time. Because we can get into the explanation trap. Oh, this is really fascinating. Let's kind of figure this out. Rather than, I don't like this. I don't want this anymore.