Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

The kid doesn't want a child psychologist giving them the body safety talk.

They want their own mom or their own dad or preferably both giving them that talk because that will make them feel safe.

And we work on that.

Like in that for me, I was somewhat entangled and somewhat disengaged and I had to learn how to

Be present.

I had to learn how to set boundaries with my family of origin to focus on my kids because they deserve my psychological energy.

And then we have the survivor parent.

And that's someone who's not post-traumatic.

They're actively living in trauma right now.

We call that acute stress disorder.

Their business is imploding around their ears.

They're about to get divorced.

There's a huge illness in the family.

And they're just focusing on keeping the little humans alive for one more day.

But sometimes survival mode can last years and years and suddenly you wake up and you're like, wait, what have I been doing?

My kids are five years older.

I just had this with somebody who in the post-traumatic parenting community, one of the membership groups, she was talking about how one minute she was living in one state with a business and a husband and three small children.

And the next thing she knew, COVID happened.

Her business failed.

She lost her house and she's back in her home state living with her parents and her kids are like five years older and she's divorced.