Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

My kids are expecting me at home or whatever.

I have another appointment after work.

And somehow, yes, comes out again.

What just happened?

And it's like that with anything.

Today, I'm going to stay calm.

I'm not going to yell at anyone.

And then you find yourself yelling.

Today, I'm going to allow people their own process and not control every aspect of it.

And then you find yourself micromanaging again.

That's where we say, what just happened?

You intended to do X and Y happened.

That tells me there's a trauma app in your brain.

That's what I call it in the book, the metaphor for how trauma rewires us.

And that gives us data, which is really helpful.

It definitely helped me become a better psychologist.

I'll tell you why.

Prior to that incident with my son, I looked at trauma, I looked at anxiety, OCD, whatever I was treating as a monster that we keep at bay.

So we learn techniques like deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation, behavioral techniques that can help us.

And I thought that was enough.