Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

If I learned those techniques, every time I have a panic attack, I breathe this way and I can manage and I can get through it.

I thought, I really thought that was enough.

After that conversation with my son, I realized I need to process my trauma.

I need to go back into the story and really examine it and really process it on a deep level and integrate it into my sense of self.

And in the book, I talk about how... And that's when I really started researching trauma therapies, not just behavioral trauma therapies, which is a good place to start.

I always say cognitive behavioral therapy has its place.

It's fabulous to know...

Those basic behavioral tips.

A kid comes into your office and she's, I'm really shy.

I'm really scared of people.

And my school has a public speaking requirement and I can't get out of it no matter what do I do?

Write me a letter.

You're a psychologist.

Say that it will traumatize me to do it.

And I say, or...

perhaps instead of writing that note, we could learn how to not be utterly terrified of public speaking and get you through that speech and imagine the sense of victory you'll feel.

And we would use these cognitive behavioral techniques to learn how to lower her heart rate and how to reinterpret her body signals.

It's a great place to start.

But it doesn't really help you deeply process and understand yourself.

So in the book, I have this model.