Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

After that, I studied every single form of trauma psychotherapy.

And they all have these three things in common.

I call it AIM, acceptance, integration, and meaning.

The first part is acceptance.

Like, you really have to accept that what happened to you, you cannot undo it.

You can't, like...

think your way out of it.

It really did happen.

Like it wasn't okay that my childhood was so traumatic.

Not that it was my parents' fault.

My dad had a very severe heart condition.

He didn't choose it other than the fact that he was a smoker and he couldn't break that addiction, but he didn't choose to be addicted, right?

So he didn't choose that.

He didn't choose to have heart attacks in front of me.

That was his life, but I can't undo it.

I can't somehow go into my brain and imagine it differently.

That's what a flashback is and trauma where you keep,

Let's say you were in a car accident and you were traumatized and your brain keeps replaying the moment of the accident and somehow you keep seeing yourself at the corner and you're about to turn left.

Your brain is trying to get you to turn right because the part of your brain that houses traumatic memories can't tell the difference between past, present and future.

So that part of your brain is trying to get you to turn right.