Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
๐ค SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
You can't.
It happened.
It's over.
It was 15 years ago.
You're never going to have turned right.
Your brain, though, doesn't know that.
So that's acceptance.
We undo what's called counterfactual thinking.
If only I had better parents, if only my dad hadn't been so angry, so then I wouldn't be yelling at people.
Whatever it is, we undo that.
It happened.
It is as it should be.
It wasn't great.
It happened.
Then we have integration, which is we're going to integrate it into our sense of self.
Now that this happened to me, I am this person who experienced this and also has a big life around it.
And it's part of my sense of self.
It's not the thing about me.
It's a thing about me.
And it's fine.