Dr. Ryan Martin

Yeah. And it's interesting because joy or happiness or excitement, like that tends to dissipate relatively quickly, more quickly than I think people realize, right? Those feelings don't last. Yeah.

Well, the half-life on joy, it's not very long probably. Right. But anger, you can still, like you'll go get in your car, you'll drive somewhere. Yeah. You'll start chewing the bottom ear. Like, I don't even know. Somehow I started chewing on my own teeth one time. I was like, what is even, you know, sometimes you can get so angry that you turn into a chew toy for yourself almost.

Well, the half-life on joy, it's not very long probably. Right. But anger, you can still, like you'll go get in your car, you'll drive somewhere. Yeah. You'll start chewing the bottom ear. Like, I don't even know. Somehow I started chewing on my own teeth one time. I was like, what is even, you know, sometimes you can get so angry that you turn into a chew toy for yourself almost.

Well, the half-life on joy, it's not very long probably. Right. But anger, you can still, like you'll go get in your car, you'll drive somewhere. Yeah. You'll start chewing the bottom ear. Like, I don't even know. Somehow I started chewing on my own teeth one time. I was like, what is even, you know, sometimes you can get so angry that you turn into a chew toy for yourself almost.

You know, like I've just gotten so agitated. Yeah. What happens to anger if we don't process it? And then how can you process it properly? Like, like what's a legitimate way to process it? That's realistic.

You know, like I've just gotten so agitated. Yeah. What happens to anger if we don't process it? And then how can you process it properly? Like, like what's a legitimate way to process it? That's realistic.

You know, like I've just gotten so agitated. Yeah. What happens to anger if we don't process it? And then how can you process it properly? Like, like what's a legitimate way to process it? That's realistic.

Well, can we start with some of the illegitimate ways? Okay.

Well, can we start with some of the illegitimate ways? Okay.

Well, can we start with some of the illegitimate ways? Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And I say that because it connects to something you just said, which is, um, you know, wanting, because people want it out of their body. And it feels like – and so we've been literally for thousands of years, people have been talking about catharsis as a way of ridding our body of anger and thinking of ourselves almost like pressure cookers.

And I say that because it connects to something you just said, which is, um, you know, wanting, because people want it out of their body. And it feels like – and so we've been literally for thousands of years, people have been talking about catharsis as a way of ridding our body of anger and thinking of ourselves almost like pressure cookers.

And I say that because it connects to something you just said, which is, um, you know, wanting, because people want it out of their body. And it feels like – and so we've been literally for thousands of years, people have been talking about catharsis as a way of ridding our body of anger and thinking of ourselves almost like pressure cookers.

Like if we don't open up the valve and release this anger, we'll blow up, right? And so that's where a lot of these approaches like if you've ever heard of a rage room or like – you know, people punching a punching bag or hitting the gym or things like that, that's where those approaches come from, is this idea that we gotta let that out.

Like if we don't open up the valve and release this anger, we'll blow up, right? And so that's where a lot of these approaches like if you've ever heard of a rage room or like – you know, people punching a punching bag or hitting the gym or things like that, that's where those approaches come from, is this idea that we gotta let that out.

Like if we don't open up the valve and release this anger, we'll blow up, right? And so that's where a lot of these approaches like if you've ever heard of a rage room or like – you know, people punching a punching bag or hitting the gym or things like that, that's where those approaches come from, is this idea that we gotta let that out.

And now here's the thing, and people are gonna throw rocks when I say this, but all of the research that we have on catharsis tells us it doesn't work. Like rage, actions of getting it out physically? That it doesn't work. It feels good at the time. And so people think, well, because it feels good, it must be good for me. It must help. But what we find is two things.