Dr. Ryan Martin
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Right, and I guess there's a, it just feels like that because physically you're doing something. Like, yeah, obviously I'm taking an action. This is an actual physical action, then it feels like, oh, that should be helpful.
Right, and I guess there's a, it just feels like that because physically you're doing something. Like, yeah, obviously I'm taking an action. This is an actual physical action, then it feels like, oh, that should be helpful.
And it is what your body wants to do, right? Because, I mean, if we define anger as the emotional desire to lash out, well, then your body wants to lash out. And so if you give it that, you know, it's going to feel good. that doesn't, again, that doesn't make it good for you.
And it is what your body wants to do, right? Because, I mean, if we define anger as the emotional desire to lash out, well, then your body wants to lash out. And so if you give it that, you know, it's going to feel good. that doesn't, again, that doesn't make it good for you.
And it is what your body wants to do, right? Because, I mean, if we define anger as the emotional desire to lash out, well, then your body wants to lash out. And so if you give it that, you know, it's going to feel good. that doesn't, again, that doesn't make it good for you.
We could talk about this with other, I mean, you know, I guess some other like bad ways to deal with your anger, but these are obvious to people is like doing drugs, right? Overeating, you know, just calling a friend and screaming at them. Like those things are bad for you. They're mean. Do they make you feel better? Sometimes in the moment they do for people, right?
We could talk about this with other, I mean, you know, I guess some other like bad ways to deal with your anger, but these are obvious to people is like doing drugs, right? Overeating, you know, just calling a friend and screaming at them. Like those things are bad for you. They're mean. Do they make you feel better? Sometimes in the moment they do for people, right?
We could talk about this with other, I mean, you know, I guess some other like bad ways to deal with your anger, but these are obvious to people is like doing drugs, right? Overeating, you know, just calling a friend and screaming at them. Like those things are bad for you. They're mean. Do they make you feel better? Sometimes in the moment they do for people, right?
But that doesn't make it good for them.
But that doesn't make it good for them.
But that doesn't make it good for them.
But sometimes I think it feels like doing one of those things is healthier than doing something physically dangerous.
But sometimes I think it feels like doing one of those things is healthier than doing something physically dangerous.
But sometimes I think it feels like doing one of those things is healthier than doing something physically dangerous.
Yes. Yep. I think so. You know, I think you're right. Although, I mean, long term, those things can be physically dangerous, too, for sure. But but yeah. Right. Yeah. In the moment. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that's the that's the worry, actually, is that.
Yes. Yep. I think so. You know, I think you're right. Although, I mean, long term, those things can be physically dangerous, too, for sure. But but yeah. Right. Yeah. In the moment. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that's the that's the worry, actually, is that.
Yes. Yep. I think so. You know, I think you're right. Although, I mean, long term, those things can be physically dangerous, too, for sure. But but yeah. Right. Yeah. In the moment. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that's the that's the worry, actually, is that.
So what we find is that people who use like if their approach to dealing with anger is I'm going to go punch this pillow or I'm going to go punch this punching bag or I'm going to tear phone books in half or whatever. What we find is that becomes it's like I used to have a soccer coach who would say practice makes permanent.
So what we find is that people who use like if their approach to dealing with anger is I'm going to go punch this pillow or I'm going to go punch this punching bag or I'm going to tear phone books in half or whatever. What we find is that becomes it's like I used to have a soccer coach who would say practice makes permanent.
So what we find is that people who use like if their approach to dealing with anger is I'm going to go punch this pillow or I'm going to go punch this punching bag or I'm going to tear phone books in half or whatever. What we find is that becomes it's like I used to have a soccer coach who would say practice makes permanent.