Dr. Ryan Martin

And this is where those expectations come in. So do I interpret this person as – do I look at this and say, oh, this is going to ruin my day. Now I'm going to be late to work. I'm not going to get done what I need to get done. do you interpret it as, oh, that idiot, why did they slow down, right? And so do you label them in that sort of negative way? You totally could have made that, man.

Or do you interpret it as, hey, it's going to slow me down two minutes. I'll still get to work. Everything's going to be okay.

Or do you interpret it as, hey, it's going to slow me down two minutes. I'll still get to work. Everything's going to be okay.

Or do you interpret it as, hey, it's going to slow me down two minutes. I'll still get to work. Everything's going to be okay.

Right. That third one sounds like the healthiest one. Yep. But I'll even go. So now I'm like this bastard. Yep. Left his house just to fucking strain me here.

Right. That third one sounds like the healthiest one. Yep. But I'll even go. So now I'm like this bastard. Yep. Left his house just to fucking strain me here.

Right. That third one sounds like the healthiest one. Yep. But I'll even go. So now I'm like this bastard. Yep. Left his house just to fucking strain me here.

Yep. He's just here to ruin my life.

Yep. He's just here to ruin my life.

Yep. He's just here to ruin my life.

Like, yeah. Or I'll, yeah. Sometimes they're a part of my brain will even go there, you know?

Like, yeah. Or I'll, yeah. Sometimes they're a part of my brain will even go there, you know?

Like, yeah. Or I'll, yeah. Sometimes they're a part of my brain will even go there, you know?

Um, We have these thoughts. There are a couple of specific types of thoughts that we have when we're faced with that kind of provocation. And one of them is what you just described. It's this inflammatory labeling. So I label this guy as a bastard, as an asshole, as a loser, whatever. Another one is that demandingness that we talked about.

Um, We have these thoughts. There are a couple of specific types of thoughts that we have when we're faced with that kind of provocation. And one of them is what you just described. It's this inflammatory labeling. So I label this guy as a bastard, as an asshole, as a loser, whatever. Another one is that demandingness that we talked about.

Um, We have these thoughts. There are a couple of specific types of thoughts that we have when we're faced with that kind of provocation. And one of them is what you just described. It's this inflammatory labeling. So I label this guy as a bastard, as an asshole, as a loser, whatever. Another one is that demandingness that we talked about.

It's like, you know, God, why can't they just do the job the way they're supposed to? Whatever. You know, what we call like making these dictatorial demands, like things need to be done the way I want them when I want them. There's what we call overgeneralizing. So it's, I don't know if you ever say like, God, this always happens to me.

It's like, you know, God, why can't they just do the job the way they're supposed to? Whatever. You know, what we call like making these dictatorial demands, like things need to be done the way I want them when I want them. There's what we call overgeneralizing. So it's, I don't know if you ever say like, God, this always happens to me.

It's like, you know, God, why can't they just do the job the way they're supposed to? Whatever. You know, what we call like making these dictatorial demands, like things need to be done the way I want them when I want them. There's what we call overgeneralizing. So it's, I don't know if you ever say like, God, this always happens to me.

You know, where you label things in that sort of super exaggerated way. There's catastrophizing, which is when you blow things out of proportion. You say, this is going to ruin my day, my week, my month, my year, right? This is the, my career is over now, right? This ruins everything. Christmas is done. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.