Dr. Ryan Martin

Yeah. This is one of the things that, so I don't know if you've ever had this experience, but have you ever been so angry that you started to cry? Is that something you can think of?

Um, yeah, not as an adult, but as a child. Yeah.

Um, yeah, not as an adult, but as a child. Yeah.

Um, yeah, not as an adult, but as a child. Yeah.

Okay. Interesting.

Okay. Interesting.

Okay. Interesting.

I've been sad as so, but that I've cried, but not anger that I've cried.

I've been sad as so, but that I've cried, but not anger that I've cried.

I've been sad as so, but that I've cried, but not anger that I've cried.

So there are some people, and I discovered this on social media. Like there are a lot of people who sometimes when they get really angry, they'll, they'll start to cry. Like that's their sort of go-to expression. And the interesting thing is the people I've talked to hate this about themselves. They, they, they, they will tell me I I can't stand it. It drives me crazy because I'm really mad.

So there are some people, and I discovered this on social media. Like there are a lot of people who sometimes when they get really angry, they'll, they'll start to cry. Like that's their sort of go-to expression. And the interesting thing is the people I've talked to hate this about themselves. They, they, they, they will tell me I I can't stand it. It drives me crazy because I'm really mad.

So there are some people, and I discovered this on social media. Like there are a lot of people who sometimes when they get really angry, they'll, they'll start to cry. Like that's their sort of go-to expression. And the interesting thing is the people I've talked to hate this about themselves. They, they, they, they will tell me I I can't stand it. It drives me crazy because I'm really mad.

And instead of like, I just start to cry. And I think a big part of what's going on there is a pretty intense feeling of helplessness. It's like, not only am I being treated badly, not only am I being treated unfairly and having my goals blocked, but there's nothing I can do about it. I'm just stuck. And that hurts, you know, and it doesn't feel good. It feels scary.

And instead of like, I just start to cry. And I think a big part of what's going on there is a pretty intense feeling of helplessness. It's like, not only am I being treated badly, not only am I being treated unfairly and having my goals blocked, but there's nothing I can do about it. I'm just stuck. And that hurts, you know, and it doesn't feel good. It feels scary.

And instead of like, I just start to cry. And I think a big part of what's going on there is a pretty intense feeling of helplessness. It's like, not only am I being treated badly, not only am I being treated unfairly and having my goals blocked, but there's nothing I can do about it. I'm just stuck. And that hurts, you know, and it doesn't feel good. It feels scary.

And so I think for a lot of people, that hopelessness and helplessness lands them in a place where they just start to tear up. Like it sort of dovetails with sadness in this very real way. Whereas for people like me, when I'm feeling particularly sort of helpless or hopeless emotionally, and angry, I tend to focus on, okay, so where are the places where I can make a difference?

And so I think for a lot of people, that hopelessness and helplessness lands them in a place where they just start to tear up. Like it sort of dovetails with sadness in this very real way. Whereas for people like me, when I'm feeling particularly sort of helpless or hopeless emotionally, and angry, I tend to focus on, okay, so where are the places where I can make a difference?

And so I think for a lot of people, that hopelessness and helplessness lands them in a place where they just start to tear up. Like it sort of dovetails with sadness in this very real way. Whereas for people like me, when I'm feeling particularly sort of helpless or hopeless emotionally, and angry, I tend to focus on, okay, so where are the places where I can make a difference?

Where are the places where I can take a little bit of power back, right? And try and solve this problem. Can I solve the whole big problem? Maybe not, but maybe I can make a dent, you know, and do what I can do. And then, and that at least gives me some, some power to like, let things go.