Dr. Ryan Martin

Yeah, and it's because then you're – it gets you out of your head to look at the thing and focus on the thing. And so like those kinds of de-escalation approaches are some of the best things to do. The truth is though there's like infinite things you can do with your anger. And so sometimes you can channel it into problem solving. You can say – because ultimately what anger gives you is energy.

Right? I mean, it gives you energy to confront the injustice. And so, you know, if you experience something that is truly unfair and you want to do something about it, well, there's lots of things you can do, right? You can protest. You can write letters to the editor. You can donate money. You can, you know, join all these causes to try and solve those problems.

Right? I mean, it gives you energy to confront the injustice. And so, you know, if you experience something that is truly unfair and you want to do something about it, well, there's lots of things you can do, right? You can protest. You can write letters to the editor. You can donate money. You can, you know, join all these causes to try and solve those problems.

Right? I mean, it gives you energy to confront the injustice. And so, you know, if you experience something that is truly unfair and you want to do something about it, well, there's lots of things you can do, right? You can protest. You can write letters to the editor. You can donate money. You can, you know, join all these causes to try and solve those problems.

That's a really good, healthy way to deal with your anger.

That's a really good, healthy way to deal with your anger.

That's a really good, healthy way to deal with your anger.

Yeah, you can hire one of those planes to write something in the sky. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. Stop smoking, love mom, it says on it. Yeah, nice. I know, my mom wanted me to stop.

Yeah, you can hire one of those planes to write something in the sky. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. Stop smoking, love mom, it says on it. Yeah, nice. I know, my mom wanted me to stop.

Yeah, you can hire one of those planes to write something in the sky. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. Stop smoking, love mom, it says on it. Yeah, nice. I know, my mom wanted me to stop.

Is that how she got you to stop? She rented a plane? Nice. She did one year. Pretty sweet of her, kind of crazy.

Is that how she got you to stop? She rented a plane? Nice. She did one year. Pretty sweet of her, kind of crazy.

Is that how she got you to stop? She rented a plane? Nice. She did one year. Pretty sweet of her, kind of crazy.

That's really kind, yeah. But yeah, so you can put your anger into something. Yep. Is that a real thing you can do, like put that in? Well, I guess you already are activated. Mm-hmm.

That's really kind, yeah. But yeah, so you can put your anger into something. Yep. Is that a real thing you can do, like put that in? Well, I guess you already are activated. Mm-hmm.

That's really kind, yeah. But yeah, so you can put your anger into something. Yep. Is that a real thing you can do, like put that in? Well, I guess you already are activated. Mm-hmm.

Yeah. You know, I, and this is the example I use. I came home. So when my kids were young, uh, you know, when you're, when your kids are young, like the only thing in the world you want is a little bit of time to yourself, right. At the house. And so I came home from, from work one day and I think I knew in my head, I had like 20 minutes before everybody else got home that I was just alone. Right.

Yeah. You know, I, and this is the example I use. I came home. So when my kids were young, uh, you know, when you're, when your kids are young, like the only thing in the world you want is a little bit of time to yourself, right. At the house. And so I came home from, from work one day and I think I knew in my head, I had like 20 minutes before everybody else got home that I was just alone. Right.

Yeah. You know, I, and this is the example I use. I came home. So when my kids were young, uh, you know, when you're, when your kids are young, like the only thing in the world you want is a little bit of time to yourself, right. At the house. And so I came home from, from work one day and I think I knew in my head, I had like 20 minutes before everybody else got home that I was just alone. Right.

And I thought, I'm just, I'm going to live my best life for 20 minutes, you know? And, and then, uh, I checked the mail and there was like a flyer in there.