Dr. Ryan Martin

Yeah. I don't know if that has a name, actually. But you know what I'm talking about? Yeah. No. I mean, when people continue to sort of walk into those situations that leave them feeling frustrated –

Yeah. I don't know if that has a name, actually. But you know what I'm talking about? Yeah. No. I mean, when people continue to sort of walk into those situations that leave them feeling frustrated –

Yeah. I don't know if that has a name, actually. But you know what I'm talking about? Yeah. No. I mean, when people continue to sort of walk into those situations that leave them feeling frustrated –

Yeah. It's like you want the agitation. Like you know it's going to bother you, so then you know you're going to be able to be angry. Your anger almost becomes an addiction in a way.

Yeah. It's like you want the agitation. Like you know it's going to bother you, so then you know you're going to be able to be angry. Your anger almost becomes an addiction in a way.

Yeah. It's like you want the agitation. Like you know it's going to bother you, so then you know you're going to be able to be angry. Your anger almost becomes an addiction in a way.

And the worst thing that can happen there sometimes is sometimes we so anticipate that a situation is going to go poorly that we actually bring it out of that situation. Like we're going to Thanksgiving dinner, and we know our uncle is going to be racist or whatever. Yeah.

And the worst thing that can happen there sometimes is sometimes we so anticipate that a situation is going to go poorly that we actually bring it out of that situation. Like we're going to Thanksgiving dinner, and we know our uncle is going to be racist or whatever. Yeah.

And the worst thing that can happen there sometimes is sometimes we so anticipate that a situation is going to go poorly that we actually bring it out of that situation. Like we're going to Thanksgiving dinner, and we know our uncle is going to be racist or whatever. Yeah.

And so we go there and we end up sort of – first of all, we're hostile to them in advance in a way that it actually brings out their hostility back to us. And then also we sort of unintentionally like goat them into things.

And so we go there and we end up sort of – first of all, we're hostile to them in advance in a way that it actually brings out their hostility back to us. And then also we sort of unintentionally like goat them into things.

And so we go there and we end up sort of – first of all, we're hostile to them in advance in a way that it actually brings out their hostility back to us. And then also we sort of unintentionally like goat them into things.

Yeah. And we bring it out. Like we'll even pass the black beans to them and then lose it on them for no reason or something, you know? Right. Like and they didn't do any – it's just like we're just waiting in our head. Yeah. You know, or we'll ask for the brown rice and they'll look at it a certain way and they just, they can't handle it. Yeah.

Yeah. And we bring it out. Like we'll even pass the black beans to them and then lose it on them for no reason or something, you know? Right. Like and they didn't do any – it's just like we're just waiting in our head. Yeah. You know, or we'll ask for the brown rice and they'll look at it a certain way and they just, they can't handle it. Yeah.

Yeah. And we bring it out. Like we'll even pass the black beans to them and then lose it on them for no reason or something, you know? Right. Like and they didn't do any – it's just like we're just waiting in our head. Yeah. You know, or we'll ask for the brown rice and they'll look at it a certain way and they just, they can't handle it. Yeah.

It's like, and then it's almost like, yeah, it's like a lot of times you set things up, you know how they're going to be. God, that's such an instance, man. What do you do in that instance? Because that's a huge one, I think. Yeah.

It's like, and then it's almost like, yeah, it's like a lot of times you set things up, you know how they're going to be. God, that's such an instance, man. What do you do in that instance? Because that's a huge one, I think. Yeah.

It's like, and then it's almost like, yeah, it's like a lot of times you set things up, you know how they're going to be. God, that's such an instance, man. What do you do in that instance? Because that's a huge one, I think. Yeah.

Well, I think it's about what I like to call proactive emotion management. So it's saying, okay, I'm anticipating that this situation is going to go badly. What are some things that I can do now to prevent it from going the way I think it could go? And so that might be, hey, let's give people the benefit of the doubt.

Well, I think it's about what I like to call proactive emotion management. So it's saying, okay, I'm anticipating that this situation is going to go badly. What are some things that I can do now to prevent it from going the way I think it could go? And so that might be, hey, let's give people the benefit of the doubt.