Dr. Ryan Martin

So that's the trigger. Then there is your mood at the time of that trigger. So are you stressed? Are you fatigued? Are you already angry about something? Are you anxious? Whatever. Are you too warm or too cold, physically uncomfortable, hungry? All those things make it more likely that you're going to respond with anger in that moment. And then there's how you interpret that behavior.

So that's the trigger. Then there is your mood at the time of that trigger. So are you stressed? Are you fatigued? Are you already angry about something? Are you anxious? Whatever. Are you too warm or too cold, physically uncomfortable, hungry? All those things make it more likely that you're going to respond with anger in that moment. And then there's how you interpret that behavior.

And this is where those expectations come in. So do I interpret this person as – do I look at this and say, oh, this is going to ruin my day. Now I'm going to be late to work. I'm not going to get done what I need to get done. do you interpret it as, oh, that idiot, why did they slow down, right? And so do you label them in that sort of negative way? You totally could have made that, man.

And this is where those expectations come in. So do I interpret this person as – do I look at this and say, oh, this is going to ruin my day. Now I'm going to be late to work. I'm not going to get done what I need to get done. do you interpret it as, oh, that idiot, why did they slow down, right? And so do you label them in that sort of negative way? You totally could have made that, man.

And this is where those expectations come in. So do I interpret this person as – do I look at this and say, oh, this is going to ruin my day. Now I'm going to be late to work. I'm not going to get done what I need to get done. do you interpret it as, oh, that idiot, why did they slow down, right? And so do you label them in that sort of negative way? You totally could have made that, man.

Or do you interpret it as, hey, it's going to slow me down two minutes. I'll still get to work. Everything's going to be okay.

Or do you interpret it as, hey, it's going to slow me down two minutes. I'll still get to work. Everything's going to be okay.

Or do you interpret it as, hey, it's going to slow me down two minutes. I'll still get to work. Everything's going to be okay.

Right. That third one sounds like the healthiest one. Yep. But I'll even go. So now I'm like this bastard. Yep. Left his house just to fucking strain me here.

Right. That third one sounds like the healthiest one. Yep. But I'll even go. So now I'm like this bastard. Yep. Left his house just to fucking strain me here.

Right. That third one sounds like the healthiest one. Yep. But I'll even go. So now I'm like this bastard. Yep. Left his house just to fucking strain me here.

Yep. He's just here to ruin my life.

Yep. He's just here to ruin my life.

Yep. He's just here to ruin my life.

Like, yeah. Or I'll, yeah. Sometimes they're a part of my brain will even go there, you know?

Like, yeah. Or I'll, yeah. Sometimes they're a part of my brain will even go there, you know?

Like, yeah. Or I'll, yeah. Sometimes they're a part of my brain will even go there, you know?

Um, We have these thoughts. There are a couple of specific types of thoughts that we have when we're faced with that kind of provocation. And one of them is what you just described. It's this inflammatory labeling. So I label this guy as a bastard, as an asshole, as a loser, whatever. Another one is that demandingness that we talked about.

Um, We have these thoughts. There are a couple of specific types of thoughts that we have when we're faced with that kind of provocation. And one of them is what you just described. It's this inflammatory labeling. So I label this guy as a bastard, as an asshole, as a loser, whatever. Another one is that demandingness that we talked about.

Um, We have these thoughts. There are a couple of specific types of thoughts that we have when we're faced with that kind of provocation. And one of them is what you just described. It's this inflammatory labeling. So I label this guy as a bastard, as an asshole, as a loser, whatever. Another one is that demandingness that we talked about.