Dr. Ryan Martin

It's like, you know, God, why can't they just do the job the way they're supposed to? Whatever. You know, what we call like making these dictatorial demands, like things need to be done the way I want them when I want them. There's what we call overgeneralizing. So it's, I don't know if you ever say like, God, this always happens to me.

It's like, you know, God, why can't they just do the job the way they're supposed to? Whatever. You know, what we call like making these dictatorial demands, like things need to be done the way I want them when I want them. There's what we call overgeneralizing. So it's, I don't know if you ever say like, God, this always happens to me.

It's like, you know, God, why can't they just do the job the way they're supposed to? Whatever. You know, what we call like making these dictatorial demands, like things need to be done the way I want them when I want them. There's what we call overgeneralizing. So it's, I don't know if you ever say like, God, this always happens to me.

You know, where you label things in that sort of super exaggerated way. There's catastrophizing, which is when you blow things out of proportion. You say, this is going to ruin my day, my week, my month, my year, right? This is the, my career is over now, right? This ruins everything. Christmas is done. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

You know, where you label things in that sort of super exaggerated way. There's catastrophizing, which is when you blow things out of proportion. You say, this is going to ruin my day, my week, my month, my year, right? This is the, my career is over now, right? This ruins everything. Christmas is done. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

You know, where you label things in that sort of super exaggerated way. There's catastrophizing, which is when you blow things out of proportion. You say, this is going to ruin my day, my week, my month, my year, right? This is the, my career is over now, right? This ruins everything. Christmas is done. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

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Yeah. And then there's the last one is what we call misattributing causation. But it's where you just blame the wrong people for things. You know, you say or you decide they did it on purpose. Right. What you were saying before about like this guy is just doing this to fuck with me. Right. That's you're you're making assumptions about.

Yeah. And then there's the last one is what we call misattributing causation. But it's where you just blame the wrong people for things. You know, you say or you decide they did it on purpose. Right. What you were saying before about like this guy is just doing this to fuck with me. Right. That's you're you're making assumptions about.

Yeah. And then there's the last one is what we call misattributing causation. But it's where you just blame the wrong people for things. You know, you say or you decide they did it on purpose. Right. What you were saying before about like this guy is just doing this to fuck with me. Right. That's you're you're making assumptions about.

No, I know you're not really making those assumptions, but you're making assumptions about why they did a thing. Right. Yeah. Yeah. and blowing it out. So all those things come together into like this recipe for why you get mad in a particular moment. And then even separate from that is what we do when we're mad, right? And so for me,

No, I know you're not really making those assumptions, but you're making assumptions about why they did a thing. Right. Yeah. Yeah. and blowing it out. So all those things come together into like this recipe for why you get mad in a particular moment. And then even separate from that is what we do when we're mad, right? And so for me,

No, I know you're not really making those assumptions, but you're making assumptions about why they did a thing. Right. Yeah. Yeah. and blowing it out. So all those things come together into like this recipe for why you get mad in a particular moment. And then even separate from that is what we do when we're mad, right? And so for me,

Every now and then I'll just have a moment where I'll yell, not at someone, but just sort of at the heavens. I might sometimes pound my fist on the table or something like that when I'm really mad. A lot of times, though, I'll sort of simmer inside a little bit. I'll get frustrated. We do this thing in my office. We've done it for a long time where when we're feeling frustrated, we'll say,

Every now and then I'll just have a moment where I'll yell, not at someone, but just sort of at the heavens. I might sometimes pound my fist on the table or something like that when I'm really mad. A lot of times, though, I'll sort of simmer inside a little bit. I'll get frustrated. We do this thing in my office. We've done it for a long time where when we're feeling frustrated, we'll say,

Every now and then I'll just have a moment where I'll yell, not at someone, but just sort of at the heavens. I might sometimes pound my fist on the table or something like that when I'm really mad. A lot of times, though, I'll sort of simmer inside a little bit. I'll get frustrated. We do this thing in my office. We've done it for a long time where when we're feeling frustrated, we'll say,

Okay, let's start with an unproductive response, meaning let's just take a minute to vent for a second about how we hate this, right? We'll take like two minutes and then we'll stop and we'll say, okay, now let's problem solve. What do we need to do, right? How do we work through this?

Okay, let's start with an unproductive response, meaning let's just take a minute to vent for a second about how we hate this, right? We'll take like two minutes and then we'll stop and we'll say, okay, now let's problem solve. What do we need to do, right? How do we work through this?