Dr. Ryan Martin

Or I ruin everything. I can't do this. What the F? You F, you loser.

Too often the solution to that is that we, instead of giving ourself grace and being patient with ourselves and saying, hey, we set impossible goals for ourself, is we just say, well, we just need to work harder.

Too often the solution to that is that we, instead of giving ourself grace and being patient with ourselves and saying, hey, we set impossible goals for ourself, is we just say, well, we just need to work harder.

Too often the solution to that is that we, instead of giving ourself grace and being patient with ourselves and saying, hey, we set impossible goals for ourself, is we just say, well, we just need to work harder.

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Right? And then we feel crappy when we don't achieve it.

Right? And then we feel crappy when we don't achieve it.

Right? And then we feel crappy when we don't achieve it.

Man, that's just a lot of my life is I just have to work harder. Yeah. Yeah, it was tough sometimes to have fun. I would tell my friends, I've said this before, but my friends are like, let's go do this thing. And I'm like, I can't go. I have to write a book. And that's where my mind always was kind of. It was like, you can't go do that. You have all this shit to do.

Man, that's just a lot of my life is I just have to work harder. Yeah. Yeah, it was tough sometimes to have fun. I would tell my friends, I've said this before, but my friends are like, let's go do this thing. And I'm like, I can't go. I have to write a book. And that's where my mind always was kind of. It was like, you can't go do that. You have all this shit to do.

Man, that's just a lot of my life is I just have to work harder. Yeah. Yeah, it was tough sometimes to have fun. I would tell my friends, I've said this before, but my friends are like, let's go do this thing. And I'm like, I can't go. I have to write a book. And that's where my mind always was kind of. It was like, you can't go do that. You have all this shit to do.

Don't you know you have all this shit to do? And I would never even look at exactly what the stuff was. It was just this gen – and I didn't realize that until recently. I'm like, well, what shit do I have to do? Like I never even – I just assumed I had to do all these things. It was like this to-do list that something was always being added on to.

Don't you know you have all this shit to do? And I would never even look at exactly what the stuff was. It was just this gen – and I didn't realize that until recently. I'm like, well, what shit do I have to do? Like I never even – I just assumed I had to do all these things. It was like this to-do list that something was always being added on to.

Don't you know you have all this shit to do? And I would never even look at exactly what the stuff was. It was just this gen – and I didn't realize that until recently. I'm like, well, what shit do I have to do? Like I never even – I just assumed I had to do all these things. It was like this to-do list that something was always being added on to.

And sometimes it was like the worst part of my brain was, was just going to add things on there no matter what, like unrealistic things, like look better. Like, all right. By 8 PM or whatever, you're like, this is, we can't do, you know, just like, or just, you know, you should be different. Like that's, but that would be like the kind of just like vague thing that would be on this.

And sometimes it was like the worst part of my brain was, was just going to add things on there no matter what, like unrealistic things, like look better. Like, all right. By 8 PM or whatever, you're like, this is, we can't do, you know, just like, or just, you know, you should be different. Like that's, but that would be like the kind of just like vague thing that would be on this.

And sometimes it was like the worst part of my brain was, was just going to add things on there no matter what, like unrealistic things, like look better. Like, all right. By 8 PM or whatever, you're like, this is, we can't do, you know, just like, or just, you know, you should be different. Like that's, but that would be like the kind of just like vague thing that would be on this.

Yeah. Well, yeah. And then, and ultimately, you know, that to-do list never ends, right? I mean, you just keep adding to it because there's always more you can do. And so, I mean, that's the problem. I mean, I've been thinking about this a lot lately with work is that And part of what happens is that we fill up the cracks, like we fill up all the time with just more work.