Dr. Scott Lyons

So I think some of the more common ways we recognize that people are addicted to stress, addicted to drama, addicted to busyness is they are constantly doing. They are in constant motion. They are in a constant state of anxious, even though they may not realize it, other people can see it. And so you'll notice it's in the language they use. They're making mountains out of molehills.

So I think some of the more common ways we recognize that people are addicted to stress, addicted to drama, addicted to busyness is they are constantly doing. They are in constant motion. They are in a constant state of anxious, even though they may not realize it, other people can see it. And so you'll notice it's in the language they use. They're making mountains out of molehills.

So I think some of the more common ways we recognize that people are addicted to stress, addicted to drama, addicted to busyness is they are constantly doing. They are in constant motion. They are in a constant state of anxious, even though they may not realize it, other people can see it. And so you'll notice it's in the language they use. They're making mountains out of molehills.

They're venting, they're gossiping, they're overscheduling. It's always about the doing. It's taking up space where they are not being in the space within themselves. It's an avoidant technique and it is a form of control.

They're venting, they're gossiping, they're overscheduling. It's always about the doing. It's taking up space where they are not being in the space within themselves. It's an avoidant technique and it is a form of control.

They're venting, they're gossiping, they're overscheduling. It's always about the doing. It's taking up space where they are not being in the space within themselves. It's an avoidant technique and it is a form of control.

So whether it's an avoidance of their emotions, whether it's an avoidance of intimacy and relationships, whether it's an avoidance of having to deal with things in their life, how are you using that nether version of busyness To keep avoiding should be out of touch with the things that need to be held, seen, supported, and felt within yourself. What are you avoiding in yourself still?

So whether it's an avoidance of their emotions, whether it's an avoidance of intimacy and relationships, whether it's an avoidance of having to deal with things in their life, how are you using that nether version of busyness To keep avoiding should be out of touch with the things that need to be held, seen, supported, and felt within yourself. What are you avoiding in yourself still?

So whether it's an avoidance of their emotions, whether it's an avoidance of intimacy and relationships, whether it's an avoidance of having to deal with things in their life, how are you using that nether version of busyness To keep avoiding should be out of touch with the things that need to be held, seen, supported, and felt within yourself. What are you avoiding in yourself still?

Especially with people who are really attached to being in stress. And I know that sounds so wild because who would want to be attached? Who would want to be connected all the time to a sense of stress? But when we go into the science of it, you'll realize we all actually do that.

Especially with people who are really attached to being in stress. And I know that sounds so wild because who would want to be attached? Who would want to be connected all the time to a sense of stress? But when we go into the science of it, you'll realize we all actually do that.

Especially with people who are really attached to being in stress. And I know that sounds so wild because who would want to be attached? Who would want to be connected all the time to a sense of stress? But when we go into the science of it, you'll realize we all actually do that.

even if they're busy, they're most likely not getting things done, at least not in the expanse of their life. Maybe it's one particularly focused thing, like, oh, I'm really good at filling my schedule, or I'm really good at this one aspect of work. And they really hyper focus on and they obsess. And yet all the rest of their life, their house, their apartment, their bedroom is a mess.

even if they're busy, they're most likely not getting things done, at least not in the expanse of their life. Maybe it's one particularly focused thing, like, oh, I'm really good at filling my schedule, or I'm really good at this one aspect of work. And they really hyper focus on and they obsess. And yet all the rest of their life, their house, their apartment, their bedroom is a mess.

even if they're busy, they're most likely not getting things done, at least not in the expanse of their life. Maybe it's one particularly focused thing, like, oh, I'm really good at filling my schedule, or I'm really good at this one aspect of work. And they really hyper focus on and they obsess. And yet all the rest of their life, their house, their apartment, their bedroom is a mess.

Nothing else is getting done except the thing that they're choosing or they've chosen to hyper focus on to avoid themselves or the feelings underneath or their relationships or the fear and vulnerability of intimacy.

Nothing else is getting done except the thing that they're choosing or they've chosen to hyper focus on to avoid themselves or the feelings underneath or their relationships or the fear and vulnerability of intimacy.

Nothing else is getting done except the thing that they're choosing or they've chosen to hyper focus on to avoid themselves or the feelings underneath or their relationships or the fear and vulnerability of intimacy.

when you like go to the underneath surface, like what's underneath the pattern? What's underneath the survival strategy? And I think about this quote or this proverb that says, a child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.

when you like go to the underneath surface, like what's underneath the pattern? What's underneath the survival strategy? And I think about this quote or this proverb that says, a child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.