Dr. Scott Lyons

I think it's really important to recognize that we contribute to our own suffering. And that's such a hard thing to hear because when the world feels like it's against us and we're in that place of victimhood, which so many of us do, that is one of the essential qualities of this addiction to stress, that the world is coming at us. That it's coming for us, but it's not with us.

I think it's really important to recognize that we contribute to our own suffering. And that's such a hard thing to hear because when the world feels like it's against us and we're in that place of victimhood, which so many of us do, that is one of the essential qualities of this addiction to stress, that the world is coming at us. That it's coming for us, but it's not with us.

I think it's really important to recognize that we contribute to our own suffering. And that's such a hard thing to hear because when the world feels like it's against us and we're in that place of victimhood, which so many of us do, that is one of the essential qualities of this addiction to stress, that the world is coming at us. That it's coming for us, but it's not with us.

That sense of being alone. And that is that child who's burning down the village to feel the warmth, to feel that comfort, to feel supported, to fill the gap of those underlying needs, childhood needs that were missed.

That sense of being alone. And that is that child who's burning down the village to feel the warmth, to feel that comfort, to feel supported, to fill the gap of those underlying needs, childhood needs that were missed.

That sense of being alone. And that is that child who's burning down the village to feel the warmth, to feel that comfort, to feel supported, to fill the gap of those underlying needs, childhood needs that were missed.

I would go back to the question, how, if at all, did we feel loved as children? How did we understand our value and our worth? Was it freely given to us? Did we have to do something in order to get something? And oftentimes, even when a parent is unavailable or they're busy on their phone, as a child, we turn it around at ourselves. Oh, they're not available because I'm too much.

I would go back to the question, how, if at all, did we feel loved as children? How did we understand our value and our worth? Was it freely given to us? Did we have to do something in order to get something? And oftentimes, even when a parent is unavailable or they're busy on their phone, as a child, we turn it around at ourselves. Oh, they're not available because I'm too much.

I would go back to the question, how, if at all, did we feel loved as children? How did we understand our value and our worth? Was it freely given to us? Did we have to do something in order to get something? And oftentimes, even when a parent is unavailable or they're busy on their phone, as a child, we turn it around at ourselves. Oh, they're not available because I'm too much.

And I have to prove that I have value to them And so I'm going to stay busy. I'm going to be a perfectionist. I'm going to go do that other grad school program. I'm going to keep earning everyone's love and keep dismissing myself and keep abandoning myself in the meantime to try to get them to come to me. Meanwhile, I have continued to leave myself. And that is a significant issue.

And I have to prove that I have value to them And so I'm going to stay busy. I'm going to be a perfectionist. I'm going to go do that other grad school program. I'm going to keep earning everyone's love and keep dismissing myself and keep abandoning myself in the meantime to try to get them to come to me. Meanwhile, I have continued to leave myself. And that is a significant issue.

And I have to prove that I have value to them And so I'm going to stay busy. I'm going to be a perfectionist. I'm going to go do that other grad school program. I'm going to keep earning everyone's love and keep dismissing myself and keep abandoning myself in the meantime to try to get them to come to me. Meanwhile, I have continued to leave myself. And that is a significant issue.

So of course, this idea of worthiness, of busyness, if I'm busy, then it means I have value. If I'm doing something, I have value. And if I have value, then I'm worth something to someone else. Maybe eventually even to myself.

So of course, this idea of worthiness, of busyness, if I'm busy, then it means I have value. If I'm doing something, I have value. And if I have value, then I'm worth something to someone else. Maybe eventually even to myself.

So of course, this idea of worthiness, of busyness, if I'm busy, then it means I have value. If I'm doing something, I have value. And if I have value, then I'm worth something to someone else. Maybe eventually even to myself.

I would go back to the question, how, if at all, did we feel loved as children? How did we understand our value and our worth? Was it freely given to us? Did we have to do something in order to get something? And oftentimes, even when a parent is unavailable or they're busy on their phone, as a child, we turn it around at ourselves. They're not available because I'm too much.

I would go back to the question, how, if at all, did we feel loved as children? How did we understand our value and our worth? Was it freely given to us? Did we have to do something in order to get something? And oftentimes, even when a parent is unavailable or they're busy on their phone, as a child, we turn it around at ourselves. They're not available because I'm too much.

I would go back to the question, how, if at all, did we feel loved as children? How did we understand our value and our worth? Was it freely given to us? Did we have to do something in order to get something? And oftentimes, even when a parent is unavailable or they're busy on their phone, as a child, we turn it around at ourselves. They're not available because I'm too much.

And I have to prove that I have value to them And so I'm gonna stay busy. I'm gonna be a perfectionist. I'm gonna go do that other grad school program. I'm gonna keep earning everyone's love and keep dismissing myself and keep abandoning myself in the meantime to try to get them to come to me. Meanwhile, I have continued to leave myself. And that is a significant issue.

And I have to prove that I have value to them And so I'm gonna stay busy. I'm gonna be a perfectionist. I'm gonna go do that other grad school program. I'm gonna keep earning everyone's love and keep dismissing myself and keep abandoning myself in the meantime to try to get them to come to me. Meanwhile, I have continued to leave myself. And that is a significant issue.