Dr. Scott Lyons

of silence, the discomfort of not being in an activated stressful state or the anxiety or the trauma or the busyness and just say, I'm here with you. This is scary. This is scary because the moment we start to settle in our nervous system, there's an alarm that goes off that says it's not safe. A lot of these skill sets you will learn with someone else.

of silence, the discomfort of not being in an activated stressful state or the anxiety or the trauma or the busyness and just say, I'm here with you. This is scary. This is scary because the moment we start to settle in our nervous system, there's an alarm that goes off that says it's not safe. A lot of these skill sets you will learn with someone else.

I sit with people all the time and I don't know how many times I've had to repeat to them. And that was then and this is now. And that was then and this is now. And it's not something that they'll understand cognitively. They have to embody it. They have to experience it in the same way. You might know you're safe, but unless you feel you're safe, you're not safe.

I sit with people all the time and I don't know how many times I've had to repeat to them. And that was then and this is now. And that was then and this is now. And it's not something that they'll understand cognitively. They have to embody it. They have to experience it in the same way. You might know you're safe, but unless you feel you're safe, you're not safe.

I sit with people all the time and I don't know how many times I've had to repeat to them. And that was then and this is now. And that was then and this is now. And it's not something that they'll understand cognitively. They have to embody it. They have to experience it in the same way. You might know you're safe, but unless you feel you're safe, you're not safe.

And it takes time to rebuild and reestablish safety as something that is safe. Calmness, settledness as something that is safe. And stress as something that is safe. We want to have the full range of that human experience with the baseline of safety, which so many of us have never truly experienced.

And it takes time to rebuild and reestablish safety as something that is safe. Calmness, settledness as something that is safe. And stress as something that is safe. We want to have the full range of that human experience with the baseline of safety, which so many of us have never truly experienced.

And it takes time to rebuild and reestablish safety as something that is safe. Calmness, settledness as something that is safe. And stress as something that is safe. We want to have the full range of that human experience with the baseline of safety, which so many of us have never truly experienced.

I don't think you're going to like my response. which is if you're already looking at how you can help others, what are you avoiding in yourself still? How are you using that nether version of busyness to keep avoiding, to be out of touch with the things that need to be held, seen, supported, and felt within yourself? Lord knows I'm a psychologist. I went to a lot of school.

I don't think you're going to like my response. which is if you're already looking at how you can help others, what are you avoiding in yourself still? How are you using that nether version of busyness to keep avoiding, to be out of touch with the things that need to be held, seen, supported, and felt within yourself? Lord knows I'm a psychologist. I went to a lot of school.

I don't think you're going to like my response. which is if you're already looking at how you can help others, what are you avoiding in yourself still? How are you using that nether version of busyness to keep avoiding, to be out of touch with the things that need to be held, seen, supported, and felt within yourself? Lord knows I'm a psychologist. I went to a lot of school.

I've helped a lot of people through the last 30 years. And my goodness, there's no better way to avoid yourself than to help someone else. And it is a form of control. So I want to just name that. Oh my gosh, my neighbor is addicted to drama. They're so busy. They're so stressed. It's so hard to be around. What comes up in you? Come back to you first. Can you stay in yourself?

I've helped a lot of people through the last 30 years. And my goodness, there's no better way to avoid yourself than to help someone else. And it is a form of control. So I want to just name that. Oh my gosh, my neighbor is addicted to drama. They're so busy. They're so stressed. It's so hard to be around. What comes up in you? Come back to you first. Can you stay in yourself?

I've helped a lot of people through the last 30 years. And my goodness, there's no better way to avoid yourself than to help someone else. And it is a form of control. So I want to just name that. Oh my gosh, my neighbor is addicted to drama. They're so busy. They're so stressed. It's so hard to be around. What comes up in you? Come back to you first. Can you stay in yourself?

Because until you can, you can't address or connect with them. Any type of change or transformation takes relationality. And if you're not home in your own process, in your own experience, in your own groundedness, there is no relationality to go and do some type of intervention with someone else.

Because until you can, you can't address or connect with them. Any type of change or transformation takes relationality. And if you're not home in your own process, in your own experience, in your own groundedness, there is no relationality to go and do some type of intervention with someone else.

Because until you can, you can't address or connect with them. Any type of change or transformation takes relationality. And if you're not home in your own process, in your own experience, in your own groundedness, there is no relationality to go and do some type of intervention with someone else.

We're done.

We're done.

We're done.