Dr. Shadé Zahrai

And so it's fundamentally lazy.

And so there's this part of it that goes, if I can anticipate everything that could go wrong, then I have to expend less energy when the consequence eventually happens.

And this is why we get stuck in those loops of everything that could be out of our control.

It's also what reinforces low acceptance because we start overthinking, do they like me?

What did that mean?

How come they haven't replied to me?

Or agency, what if people find out I can't do this?

What if I mess up there?

So it's all a reflection of low autonomy.

So when we're overthinking, something that is terrible advice is to tell yourself, just stop worrying, stop overthinking.

And yet you might have someone in your life that says this to you, just stop worrying.

Bad advice.

What we know is much more effective is to give your overthinking an outlet.

What does that mean?

Every time you have a distracting thought that pops up during the day, a worry, you're ruminating on something, grab a notebook and a pen and actually write it down.

And then you say to yourself, I'm not going to worry about you now.

I will worry about you during worry zone.

Okay.

Okay, so you're parking it somewhere.

Got it.